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Lawyer got in touch with me. Trying to decide timeline.
Talking to some friends and some of the comments stated, Are you sure he's drinking? No, but confident enough.
So he's drinking, grandpa stopped after work for a few to. What's wrong with that? Is there more going on?
Talking to some friends and some of the comments stated, Are you sure he's drinking? No, but confident enough.
So he's drinking, grandpa stopped after work for a few to. What's wrong with that? Is there more going on?
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They haven’t lived your life, you have...
Your first thread...August, three years ago...
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...tions-how.html (Thinking about Divorce, questions on how.)
NO ONE can say you have taken this decision lightly or quickly.
It boils down to one thing: is this how you want to spend your life?
Your first thread...August, three years ago...
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...tions-how.html (Thinking about Divorce, questions on how.)
NO ONE can say you have taken this decision lightly or quickly.
It boils down to one thing: is this how you want to spend your life?
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I haven't lived my life because I don't have a partner. A day before his family is coming over twice in a week, he is at a bar drinking while I'm wrapping up the gifts and then tending to the children. I'm buying the gifts for people who ghost me. I am the one doing.it.all and he's right now drinking for the last hour.
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What happens if you don’t? Quit wrapping gifts except the kids’, return the gifts to people who were rude to you...or leave it all out and tell him he can wrap his family’s gifts when and if he comes home.
You don’t have to keep every plate spinning on the end of every stick. Resentment, martyrdom and living a big fat lie are terrible for your health.
Screw it. Do what YOU want to do about the holidays. You’ve done your time, yes?
You don’t have to keep every plate spinning on the end of every stick. Resentment, martyrdom and living a big fat lie are terrible for your health.
Screw it. Do what YOU want to do about the holidays. You’ve done your time, yes?
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Meeting him where he's most comfortable
I couldn't take the secrecy so I met him where he is obviously most comfortable...at the bar. I didn't I make a scene, though I was so nervous. I was trembling. Trembling to meet my own husband. We talked the best we talked in years. It was great. It was disturbing. It is making my head spin. I learned some new things and also seen a lifestyle I just can't grasp. Why sit at a bar with strangers when you could be home with your wife and children? It was sad. He is a different man at the bar. He is a different man at home. He is a stranger among his family. So many things learned while was sitting at a bar.
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Hearthealth…….I can't help but wonder what you talked about at the bar.....
Of course, talking nice to someone in a bar does not make up for the fact that he is not nice to his family at home....especially, little children...…
Of course, talking nice to someone in a bar does not make up for the fact that he is not nice to his family at home....especially, little children...…
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Welllll…...alcohol does disinhibit.....
I have known some people who are real Chatty Kathy when they are drinking...…
Only one problem with that....I discovered...is that one can't take anything that an alcoholic says while drinking , seriously....
I have known some people who are real Chatty Kathy when they are drinking...…
Only one problem with that....I discovered...is that one can't take anything that an alcoholic says while drinking , seriously....
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