He’s trying to quit...and pretty sure he’s turned into the devil
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Clowery, there must be something about dental appts. lately. My AH just found out at his dentist appt. his BP was high...like scary high, 223/119 and he got sent to the ER. Said he felt fine, only a slight headache.
The good: he’s now on BP medication, which is helping tremendously (he still chews though)
The good/bad: all his blood test, heart ultrasound, basically the works, all came back squeaky clean. I was at least hoping/praying something would be elevated enough to warrant a warning or scare him a little, nothing serious ya know but... Nope! He literally said while being discharged “see I’m fine, now you can get off my back” (insert eye roll here)
I hope your husbands results are good too...
But please, please make sure you keep looking after yourself. It seems these things pop up and we tend to get side tracked/old habits because...well because it’s what we (at least me) caregivers do.
The good: he’s now on BP medication, which is helping tremendously (he still chews though)
The good/bad: all his blood test, heart ultrasound, basically the works, all came back squeaky clean. I was at least hoping/praying something would be elevated enough to warrant a warning or scare him a little, nothing serious ya know but... Nope! He literally said while being discharged “see I’m fine, now you can get off my back” (insert eye roll here)
I hope your husbands results are good too...
But please, please make sure you keep looking after yourself. It seems these things pop up and we tend to get side tracked/old habits because...well because it’s what we (at least me) caregivers do.
And I’m really trying to take care of myself and the kids. I’m seeing a counselor once a week. We are staying away as much as possible. Trying to wait until I know he’s gone to bed to come home. That’s helping right now.
I'll respond as an alcoholic in recovery: refusing to get help is just another way of not quitting. My best thinking got me drunk, it was only when I went to AA in 1991 and took suggestions that, one day at a time, I didn't drink. He can delude himself but you don't have to be. And as a codependent I know there's nothing you can say or do that will affect his drinking in any way.
So you must save yourself. Alanon was a lifesaver for me and I recommend it.
So you must save yourself. Alanon was a lifesaver for me and I recommend it.
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