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NSFW (language) Richard Gannon https://youtu.be/aAQSAIMWhP4 "There's black and white thinking because that's what happens to traumatized people." Malignant Optimist: hoping things will get better even though they won't --- leads to --- Toxic passivity - when you're stuck receiving the abuse "Force-fed somebody else's dreams" |
Typo in the title. Richard Grannon. :) Here's another, about overcoming codependency. https://youtu.be/MdqMEZkLOiw |
WOW - this one got me in the gut! "you can't assert a boundary if you have no personal value" Thanks for sharing the video |
Wow. Good stuff. Very eye opening! |
Richard is one of my favourites, I've watched many of his videos and he does know what he is talking about for sure. |
HOW: honesty, open-mindedness, willingness Some Richard Grannon talks I can choose to make great use of. Facing FOO and alcoholism in my immediate family has me more open to listening to others, allowing space to reflect on what has been said and more confidence in trusting my instincts. https://youtu.be/bDH7ciWl6mk |
Malignant optimism - that's me! |
https://youtu.be/uAeSEhUN1YI This is definitely a new year for me on how I'm receiving solutions for moving ahead in healing, happiness and resiliency. Common points through my whole recovery that are expanding, getting stronger and more fun, overall It's good to know fully what I'm dealing with. |
Relating to this talk about social propaganda in many ways with narcissistic behaviors. https://youtu.be/q6wx50ZK3jk |
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Link above I've just started listening to. My husband is alcoholic, not narcissistic. Yet in his illness there can be a lot of narcissistic behaviors. |
Mango, do you think it may be time to think about minimizing contact permanently with your spouse since he seems to be stuck in a rut of lifelong serial relapse? Like you've done with your FOO? You seem to spend so much of your own precious life energy thinking about him and his issues. I don't mean this critically in any way, but for years you keep letting him back in your life and he continues to fail to maintain sobriety. When is enough enough? :grouphug: |
Lol. Perspectives can be many things. My experience is very little contact with him, especially as he is either in early recovery or not in recovery. I'm not even sure where he current lives. I was blessed to have a day in October kayaking on a mountain lake. My husband was able to show up. I had the thought resonating through me that I was seeing and experiencing a miracle, and also a very real awareness he wasn't done drinking yet. To enjoy the sober day with him, simply for what it was. I haven't seen him since. I'm okay with that. Higher Powered stuff. I deserve, want and value having more in my life. I know how to enjoy my life fully in this one day, and allow great foundations for tomorrow. My marriage situation is fully in God's hands. Through the CPS case and DS13 currently living with his sister, I'm out of getting to guide how things look in any regards to toxic family members. Even as my CPS case likely winds up in another month, it's also the start of my next legal recourse. I posted the above link in awareness of a have a still young-ish child/teenager who has an alcoholic father with narcissistic behaviors and other issues. :) |
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