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Old 11-04-2019, 09:08 AM   #1 (permalink)
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The end is near


I haven't been here in quite some time.
My brother has somehow managed to make it this far.
He has Hep C, Cirrhosis, emphysema, cancer, congestive heart failure and pneumonia.
He is in long term care, completely out of his min.
He shouts nonsensical numbers and phrases and doesn't respond to anyone.
Not eating or taking his meds. Weighs about 100 lbs

We went to see him yesterday and I will NOT go back
I do not want to remember him like this.

This is a heartbreaking disease, it steals your life inch by inch.
And everyone who loves you suffers.

My sweet brother has been absent for many years, may he finally achieve peace.
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Sending a big hug and lots of support. So very sad.
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Old 11-04-2019, 12:36 PM   #3 (permalink)
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littlesister….I understand your pain. I know that you love him very much. So many of us have faced this with our loved one.....
My heart goes out to you....
You are not alone....and, I am glad that you came here to tell us...we can understand more than mere words can say....
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Old 11-04-2019, 01:21 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Thank you, it's been a rough few years.

I just want peace for him
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Old 11-04-2019, 01:33 PM   #5 (permalink)
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And you deserve peace as well.

So heartbreaking. I’m sorry.
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Old 11-04-2019, 02:06 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Littlesister1,

I'm sorry for the hurt you have been through these years. Try and remember the good times with your brother and I hope peace for both you and him. Take care of yourself and try and stay strong.
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Old 11-04-2019, 10:23 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Wow. So so sorry. It is heartbreaking.

May every angel in the universe circle you and your family.
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I'm so sorry for you and your brother. How very sad. Peace to you both, in your own ways.
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Old 11-05-2019, 01:55 AM   #9 (permalink)
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It's remembering them before they damaged themselves that's so hurtful for relatives. So much wasted potential.
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Littlesister, im sorry you have to witness that sweetheart.

Remember him how he was if it is too painful for you. He would understand .
Plus he probably would not like you to remember him this way.

Savour your happy memories, this disease is so heartbreaking.

Sending you much love
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I will remember your family this morning during prayer time.
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*hugs* thinking of you and your family.
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It's remembering them before they damaged themselves that's so hurtful for relatives. So much wasted potential.
This!

I feel as though I have already done my mourning for him in a way
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This!

I feel as though I have already done my mourning for him in a way
Exactly how I feel...we all grieve for loved ones who haven't passed on yet. I will pray for your peace and his as well. My daughter is the "little sister" of my alcoholic son...my heart breaks reading your post.
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You are not alone in this situation and I wish peace to you and your family.

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I am very sorry to hear this. May his end be peaceful.
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I am sorry to hear this littlesister1. It is hard to watch a person go this way. I hope you can find some peace in good memories. Attach happiness to those and hold on tight to them.
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I'm just so sorry....Sending prayers for you and your whole family.
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Sending peaceful thoughts to you.
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