We are such stuff that dreams are made of
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We are such stuff that dreams are made of
Hi fam, been away because I freaked myself out over something I saw on the AH phone screen. But, whatever. I’m tired of being afraid. I went to confession at church the other day and cried for 20 minutes in the confessional. Poor father, he was very loving and just like the A has step 5, I confessed the exact nature of my wrongs to myself and another person. The priest gave me penance and absolution. Since then, I went to a sewing class, signed up for an aerobics class, and start the day with a 6:30 mass. The AH is still going to meetings, and has been civil. I have gotten off his back, out of the way, and using that duct tape that dandy recommends. 🤪 I turned in the revised divorce papers and he should sign them this week, yet in my heart I still yearn for him to hold me tell me this is all a nightmare and he will never drink again...Ah well, such is the stuff dreams are made of. Hope you are all well. Hard lessons, the Hong Kong airport is in chaos! Postpone the trip! Lol..
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Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus 
Well so much for civility. Now it’s my fault because I don’t take my wedding vows seriously like he does. This is insane.
All I gotta say with a special song for my friend D.C. is:
Monkey poo
Monkey poo
It don't look good on you
So what you gonna do
To take care of you
so no more
Monkey poo?
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about the "vows" statement - i think your AH got confused and thought they were options to choose from, like a menu: sickness, health, richer, poorer, better, worse. and he chose SICKNESS with a side of WORSE.
just words, D&C, just words.
just words, D&C, just words.
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
about the "vows" statement - i think your AH got confused and thought they were options to choose from, like a menu: sickness, health, richer, poorer, better, worse. and he chose SICKNESS with a side of WORSE.
just words, D&C, just words.
just words, D&C, just words.
maybe call it "Anvil. ain't no Jive"
I would tune in daily. . .
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Originally Posted by HardLessons
D&C
You ghosted us (including me) & now postponing our trip? I'm starting to experience serious flashbacks here!
You ghosted us (including me) & now postponing our trip? I'm starting to experience serious flashbacks here!
Dazed, you sent a PM but you sent it from your old username! I tracked you down to your new username, that's how I pm'd you. Did you think we were all ignoring you??
I would watch your show Anvil!
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Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus
Well so much for civility. Now it’s my fault because I don’t take my wedding vows seriously like he does. This is insane.
have you gotten “you are the one that changed?” And thus its your fault yet? Let me know when you do.
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
about the "vows" statement - i think your AH got confused and thought they were options to choose from, like a menu: sickness, health, richer, poorer, better, worse. and he chose SICKNESS with a side of WORSE.
just words, D&C, just words.
just words, D&C, just words.
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Originally Posted by DiggingForFire
I got that one too. Because the death part is all that matters. Not the love honor and cherish stuff. I told mine he cashed the death part in when I saved his life.
have you gotten “you are the one that changed?” And thus its your fault yet? Let me know when you do.
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Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus
i haven’t yet. He’s only focused on himself. He wouldn’t notice if I changed. In actuality he doesn’t even really know who I am or my intentions. According to him trying to talk is an argument and expressing my feelings is just guilt tripping him. All about him.
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He has admitted recently that he lacks coping skills. He is understanding that he has no skills to face life on life terms. All I can say is he used to. This downward spiral is sad to watch. He is trying to express himself, he is trying to keep centered. What’s scary for me is that right now his entire life is meetings, rehab, and therapy and he is keeping a grip on things. What happens when he returns full time to work, responsibilities, and day to day living without the constant support from therapy? I shudder to think. Sometimes I think he should be in a facility full time...
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