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so in the mail yesterday the AH gets a settlement check. It was pretty big. He looks rested and is not doing a single thing. Me, on the other hand have spent a lot of money, am running around cleaning, mowing, divorcing, and pretty tired. Either way I’m getting hurt, staying in hurt, leaving I’m hurt....and AH gets rewarded? Wtf? I should start drinking.
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DC, things will be a lot more peaceful for you when you are able to get out of the middle of the storm. There are always going to be things that feel unfair that are totally out of our control. It's your choice to see it as a "reward", but you could also just recognize it as yet another thing that doesn't really have anything to do with you. Your peace and rewards are on their way.
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Originally Posted by SparkleKitty 
DC, things will be a lot more peaceful for you when you are able to get out of the middle of the storm. There are always going to be things that feel unfair that are totally out of our control. It's your choice to see it as a "reward", but you could also just recognize it as yet another thing that doesn't really have anything to do with you. Your peace and rewards are on their way.
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Dazed......I call this time....."Short-term pain, for the Long-term Gain.
You have got to do what you have got to do in order to free yourself from the "prison" of his alcoholism.....
Your own mental health requires it....
You have got to do what you have got to do in order to free yourself from the "prison" of his alcoholism.....
Your own mental health requires it....
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Originally Posted by dandylion
Dazed......I call this time....."Short-term pain, for the Long-term Gain.
You have got to do what you have got to do in order to free yourself from the "prison" of his alcoholism.....
Your own mental health requires it....
You have got to do what you have got to do in order to free yourself from the "prison" of his alcoholism.....
Your own mental health requires it....
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
The good news is now that he has some money, there should be no problem for him to get out of your house into his own place or with his family.
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Dunno what state you live in, but half that check is yours in a lot of places. Take a picture of it, quick. Once he figures out you’re serious about the divorce he may start hiding assets and income.
So he’s headed for rehab tomorrow, right? Wasn’t that something he said?
So he’s headed for rehab tomorrow, right? Wasn’t that something he said?
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Originally Posted by Ariesagain
Dunno what state you live in, but half that check is yours in a lot of places. Take a picture of it, quick. Once he figures out you’re serious about the divorce he may start hiding assets and income.
So he’s headed for rehab tomorrow, right? Wasn’t that something he said?
So he’s headed for rehab tomorrow, right? Wasn’t that something he said?
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objectively, if someone gets a "settlement" for something, some court decided they were legally entitled to same. that is not a reward. it's just a result of something else.
try not to see this is some game or competition with a big scoreboard. he's gonna do what he is gonna do. so be it.
he's gonna say what he's gonna say. which will change in less than three hours. so be it.
he has his own agenda. and the list of interested parties on his agenda equals exactly ONE. him. so be it.
remember he was the drunk naked guy a couple days ago determined to walk to the liquor store in just shoes.
try not to see this is some game or competition with a big scoreboard. he's gonna do what he is gonna do. so be it.
he's gonna say what he's gonna say. which will change in less than three hours. so be it.
he has his own agenda. and the list of interested parties on his agenda equals exactly ONE. him. so be it.
remember he was the drunk naked guy a couple days ago determined to walk to the liquor store in just shoes.
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
objectively, if someone gets a "settlement" for something, some court decided they were legally entitled to same. that is not a reward. it's just a result of something else.
try not to see this is some game or competition with a big scoreboard. he's gonna do what he is gonna do. so be it.
he's gonna say what he's gonna say. which will change in less than three hours. so be it.
he has his own agenda. and the list of interested parties on his agenda equals exactly ONE. him. so be it.
remember he was the drunk naked guy a couple days ago determined to walk to the liquor store in just shoes.
try not to see this is some game or competition with a big scoreboard. he's gonna do what he is gonna do. so be it.
he's gonna say what he's gonna say. which will change in less than three hours. so be it.
he has his own agenda. and the list of interested parties on his agenda equals exactly ONE. him. so be it.
remember he was the drunk naked guy a couple days ago determined to walk to the liquor store in just shoes.
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Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus
He does have a dr appt tomorrow to get referred to rehab. I’m staying out of it. Going to therapy and stop by the lawyer.
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Originally Posted by Bekindalways
^^^^ Really happy to hear this Dazed. Inspite of being in the whirlwind of alcoholic/divorce hell you do seem to keep managing to get your concentration where it needs to be. Keep it up!
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