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Old 07-21-2019, 01:55 PM
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so in the mail yesterday the AH gets a settlement check. It was pretty big. He looks rested and is not doing a single thing. Me, on the other hand have spent a lot of money, am running around cleaning, mowing, divorcing, and pretty tired. Either way Iím getting hurt, staying in hurt, leaving Iím hurt....and AH gets rewarded? Wtf? I should start drinking.
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No dont drink .not gonna solve anything. Just intensifie your hurt. Dont wish no ill will. Like they say karma has no dead line........keep coming back.
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Old 07-21-2019, 02:11 PM
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DC, things will be a lot more peaceful for you when you are able to get out of the middle of the storm. There are always going to be things that feel unfair that are totally out of our control. It's your choice to see it as a "reward", but you could also just recognize it as yet another thing that doesn't really have anything to do with you. Your peace and rewards are on their way.
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Old 07-21-2019, 02:13 PM
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DC, things will be a lot more peaceful for you when you are able to get out of the middle of the storm. There are always going to be things that feel unfair that are totally out of our control. It's your choice to see it as a "reward", but you could also just recognize it as yet another thing that doesn't really have anything to do with you. Your peace and rewards are on their way.
I heard that in my mind earlier....from Godís mouth to your ear.
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Dazed......I call this time....."Short-term pain, for the Long-term Gain.
You have got to do what you have got to do in order to free yourself from the "prison" of his alcoholism.....
Your own mental health requires it....
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Dazed......I call this time....."Short-term pain, for the Long-term Gain.
You have got to do what you have got to do in order to free yourself from the "prison" of his alcoholism.....
Your own mental health requires it....
heavy sigh, noted. I was hoping youíd show up dandy. ❤️
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Old 07-21-2019, 02:57 PM
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The good news is now that he has some money, there should be no problem for him to get out of your house into his own place or with his family.
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Old 07-21-2019, 03:03 PM
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The good news is now that he has some money, there should be no problem for him to get out of your house into his own place or with his family.
Iím glad to see you Hawkeye....true, but heís not making any moves. I have a feeling itís gonna take the law to do it. He REALLY wants to reconcile. I donít see it happening.
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Dunno what state you live in, but half that check is yours in a lot of places. Take a picture of it, quick. Once he figures out youíre serious about the divorce he may start hiding assets and income.

So heís headed for rehab tomorrow, right? Wasnít that something he said?
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Dunno what state you live in, but half that check is yours in a lot of places. Take a picture of it, quick. Once he figures out youíre serious about the divorce he may start hiding assets and income.

So heís headed for rehab tomorrow, right? Wasnít that something he said?
I donít want to go there with the half is mine stuff. I think I have much more assets than him currently and he could get really mean and ugly. Right now itís a simple default divorce with little money involved. He does have a dr appt tomorrow to get referred to rehab. Iím staying out of it. Going to therapy and stop by the lawyer.
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objectively, if someone gets a "settlement" for something, some court decided they were legally entitled to same. that is not a reward. it's just a result of something else.

try not to see this is some game or competition with a big scoreboard. he's gonna do what he is gonna do. so be it.
he's gonna say what he's gonna say. which will change in less than three hours. so be it.
he has his own agenda. and the list of interested parties on his agenda equals exactly ONE. him. so be it.
remember he was the drunk naked guy a couple days ago determined to walk to the liquor store in just shoes.
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII View Post
objectively, if someone gets a "settlement" for something, some court decided they were legally entitled to same. that is not a reward. it's just a result of something else.

try not to see this is some game or competition with a big scoreboard. he's gonna do what he is gonna do. so be it.
he's gonna say what he's gonna say. which will change in less than three hours. so be it.
he has his own agenda. and the list of interested parties on his agenda equals exactly ONE. him. so be it.
remember he was the drunk naked guy a couple days ago determined to walk to the liquor store in just shoes.
lol! Indeed he was anvil, indeed he was. Youíre so right. Iím not interested in his agenda only he is. Many thanks for the laugh.
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He does have a dr appt tomorrow to get referred to rehab. Iím staying out of it. Going to therapy and stop by the lawyer.
^^^^ Really happy to hear this Dazed. Inspite of being in the whirlwind of alcoholic/divorce hell you do seem to keep managing to get your concentration where it needs to be. Keep it up!
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^^^^ Really happy to hear this Dazed. Inspite of being in the whirlwind of alcoholic/divorce hell you do seem to keep managing to get your concentration where it needs to be. Keep it up!
thank you be kind! Iím trying.
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The good news is now that he has some money, there should be no problem for him to get out of your house into his own place or with his family.
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