Oh my god
Quit engaging him. He will say anything to get status quo back.
Tell him to contact you after a full year of recovery and you will consider it then, but that meanwhile divorce goes forward. He will show true colors. Drunks don't like the effort starting over takes. Easier to keep you enabling.
Tell him to contact you after a full year of recovery and you will consider it then, but that meanwhile divorce goes forward. He will show true colors. Drunks don't like the effort starting over takes. Easier to keep you enabling.
Quit engaging him. He will say anything to get status quo back.
Tell him to contact you after a full year of recovery and you will consider it then, but that meanwhile divorce goes forward. He will show true colors. Drunks don't like the effort starting over takes. Easier to keep you enabling.
Tell him to contact you after a full year of recovery and you will consider it then, but that meanwhile divorce goes forward. He will show true colors. Drunks don't like the effort starting over takes. Easier to keep you enabling.
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When your focus is 100% on the addict — you will continue to go mad... & YOUR life will spiral out of control. Nothing good will come from walking back onto his rollercoaster. Ask for 1 year of sobriety minimum and ask a friend to crash on their couch! Obsession leads to heartbreak!!!
Dazed...of course, he is a spinning top....he is an alcoholic.
The time has finally come it seems...for the both of you to stop "talking the talk"....
And, begin "walking the walk".....
talk is cheap...
Action is what counts....
The time has finally come it seems...for the both of you to stop "talking the talk"....
And, begin "walking the walk".....
talk is cheap...
Action is what counts....
There's the true colors. You do need to get out of the house and hearing range. I suggest if any contact is necessary before he leaves, it should be via email or text. His verbal garbage is piling up.
I get it. I have set my boundaries. Divorce moving ahead. I’m putting my emotional health first. He’s scared sh******. His own family won’t talk to him.
yep. I’m giving myself another day to recover. I was literally on the suucide hotline last night. I never want to feel like that again. After another day I go back to living. He’s got some figuring out to do...doesn’t he now?
When your focus is 100% on the addict — you will continue to go mad... & YOUR life will spiral out of control. Nothing good will come from walking back onto his rollercoaster. Ask for 1 year of sobriety minimum and ask a friend to crash on their couch! Obsession leads to heartbreak!!!
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Sometimes it’s all such a blur that it’s good to be able to go back and see what you’ve been through..here’s the link to all your threads, just in case you need to remember...
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...archid=8640890
Wishing you strength and peace of mind...
P.S. Your dog is okay, yes?
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...archid=8640890
Wishing you strength and peace of mind...
P.S. Your dog is okay, yes?
Sometimes it’s all such a blur that it’s good to be able to go back and see what you’ve been through..here’s the link to all your threads, just in case you need to remember...
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...archid=8640890
Wishing you strength and peace of mind...
P.S. Your dog is okay, yes?
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...archid=8640890
Wishing you strength and peace of mind...
P.S. Your dog is okay, yes?
So glad to hear you have exited the road show for now.
For the love of all things holy, how long does it take him to pack. When is he leaving, beginning of August? Any way to move that up? You can't put up with this for another week and a half.
Do you have anywhere you can go until then? Perhaps an Air BnB for a week at least. I know the costs of escaping are piling up and that may not be doable. How about a women's shelter? Might be an idea to give them a call?
You are doing really well by the way, hang in there.
For the love of all things holy, how long does it take him to pack. When is he leaving, beginning of August? Any way to move that up? You can't put up with this for another week and a half.
Do you have anywhere you can go until then? Perhaps an Air BnB for a week at least. I know the costs of escaping are piling up and that may not be doable. How about a women's shelter? Might be an idea to give them a call?
You are doing really well by the way, hang in there.
So glad to hear you have exited the road show for now.
For the love of all things holy, how long does it take him to pack. When is he leaving, beginning of August? Any way to move that up? You can't put up with this for another week and a half.
Do you have anywhere you can go until then? Perhaps an Air BnB for a week at least. I know the costs of escaping are piling up and that may not be doable. How about a women's shelter? Might be an idea to give them a call?
You are doing really well by the way, hang in there.
For the love of all things holy, how long does it take him to pack. When is he leaving, beginning of August? Any way to move that up? You can't put up with this for another week and a half.
Do you have anywhere you can go until then? Perhaps an Air BnB for a week at least. I know the costs of escaping are piling up and that may not be doable. How about a women's shelter? Might be an idea to give them a call?
You are doing really well by the way, hang in there.
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