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Originally Posted by Sasha1972 
I received a call from a nearby emergency room. Ex was brought in after a cardiac event of some sort. He is unconscious, not breathing on his own, and described as "very, very sick". I asked if he was expected to survive and the nurse said "probably not". I asked if I should bring my daughter in to say goodbye. The nurse asked how old she was and I told her. The nurse said I should prepare to bring her in, but that I should wait until after the attending physician has spoken to me. So I am waiting for the attending to call and let me know whether I have to tell my daughter that her father is dying and then take her to see him for the last time. I am shaking and in shock. I have known for a long time that this might be coming but it is still overwhelming. If you pray, please pray for me and my daughter and her father, that he might find peace somehow.
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Wow, Sasha. I’m so sorry.
Of course it’s normal to feel relief. It’s also normal to feel shocked but not shocked, fear, grief, all of it.
I’m sorry for what lies ahead for you, but I do know from what little I know of your life through what you post here, you are a tough cookie. You love your daughter with a fierceness that will help you both get through this.
I was your daughter. My mom died of an od when I was 13. My dad couldn’t deal with it, couldn’t face it. He stayed, he kept a roof over our heads, which was commendable- but he never healed, we never really talked about it, and he was just angry and emotionally gone after that.
I only say all of that because you have already shown yourself to be so much better for your daughter, so much more in touch with her needs and so willing to protect her without keeping her in the dark about reality. She’s going to have a looooootttt to process here, as will you. But you’ve already laid the groundwork with her for open, honest, loving communication.
Please know that you have a lot of us thinking of you, supporting you from afar. I hope you somehow feel the support and it somehow helps to carry you.
Take care, wehav
Of course it’s normal to feel relief. It’s also normal to feel shocked but not shocked, fear, grief, all of it.
I’m sorry for what lies ahead for you, but I do know from what little I know of your life through what you post here, you are a tough cookie. You love your daughter with a fierceness that will help you both get through this.
I was your daughter. My mom died of an od when I was 13. My dad couldn’t deal with it, couldn’t face it. He stayed, he kept a roof over our heads, which was commendable- but he never healed, we never really talked about it, and he was just angry and emotionally gone after that.
I only say all of that because you have already shown yourself to be so much better for your daughter, so much more in touch with her needs and so willing to protect her without keeping her in the dark about reality. She’s going to have a looooootttt to process here, as will you. But you’ve already laid the groundwork with her for open, honest, loving communication.
Please know that you have a lot of us thinking of you, supporting you from afar. I hope you somehow feel the support and it somehow helps to carry you.
Take care, wehav
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