Sounds I've come to hate...
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Originally Posted by Glenjo99 
That sound of evil laughter when they reconised they had riled you and hooked you into their provocation. To this day I can recognise that similar laugh in alcoholics I've met (I'm sure not all).
It's chilling.
It's chilling.
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The fridge door opening and closing after I have gone to bed signals the cheese board course, to accompany the second bottle of wine. Because if its good wine, you can convince yourself you're not an alco.
The throat clearing when the reflux starts. Revolting.
The throat clearing when the reflux starts. Revolting.
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also
*Inner garage door opening (beer fridge in garage)
*Ice in a glass (hard liquor = more meanness)
*Noisy yawning every five minutes — actually makes me sneer in revulsion
*90 db snoring
*stilted formal preachy language
* outer garage door opening: dumping out bottles into recycling before any of us see them emptied
*Ice in a glass (hard liquor = more meanness)
*Noisy yawning every five minutes — actually makes me sneer in revulsion
*90 db snoring
*stilted formal preachy language
* outer garage door opening: dumping out bottles into recycling before any of us see them emptied
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amen
I can SO relate to your contempt for your AH; I could have written this post.
Originally Posted by Wombaticus
The fridge door opening and closing after I have gone to bed signals the cheese board course, to accompany the second bottle of wine. Because if its good wine, you can convince yourself you're not an alco.
The throat clearing when the reflux starts. Revolting.
The throat clearing when the reflux starts. Revolting.
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Originally Posted by Trinity7777
Not an alcohol related sound I don't think, though I have suspected esophageal varices, but my ABF has a horrible wracking cough that devolves into gagging and sometimes puking. It's worst in the morning or anytime his blood pressure raises like with stress or sex. It makes me feel ill whenever I hear it.
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Originally Posted by Trinity7777
Not an alcohol related sound I don't think, though I have suspected esophageal varices, but my ABF has a horrible wracking cough that devolves into gagging and sometimes puking. It's worst in the morning or anytime his blood pressure raises like with stress or sex. It makes me feel ill whenever I hear it.
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Right now, I am upstairs in the spare bedroom with my two dogs, trying and not succeeding to listening to everytime my husband goes into the garage, takes, a puff off his cigar, opens his "beer fridge", walks into the basement, sits down, and cracks a beer. He was home at noon. I got home at 430. Since I have been home, I have, on and off counted 14 cracks. I hate the cracks. It's only 8:30. He still have 2-3 more hours to go.I find myself holding my breath as the sound travels upstairs.
Music, reading, phone calls, studying work, supports, friends, exercising, yoga, clean eating, deep breathing, vitamins, massages, cleaning, mindfulness, etc. I do it all. The cracks each night remind me that my efforts to be well and healthy are a beautiful thing and vital for me and my dependence.
The floor and nights divide us. My husband's "I'm trying, I need more time, I like to drink, I don't need to talk to anyone, I'll figure it out, I'm just a bad husband, you're being crazy, etc.", keep me wondering. The logical part of my brain knows I would be okay on my own if that ever happens. The emotional part of my brain loves my husband. I'm exhausted and can't sleep.
Today was a day that it got the better of me. Today I'm grateful I stumbled upon this post.
Music, reading, phone calls, studying work, supports, friends, exercising, yoga, clean eating, deep breathing, vitamins, massages, cleaning, mindfulness, etc. I do it all. The cracks each night remind me that my efforts to be well and healthy are a beautiful thing and vital for me and my dependence.
The floor and nights divide us. My husband's "I'm trying, I need more time, I like to drink, I don't need to talk to anyone, I'll figure it out, I'm just a bad husband, you're being crazy, etc.", keep me wondering. The logical part of my brain knows I would be okay on my own if that ever happens. The emotional part of my brain loves my husband. I'm exhausted and can't sleep.
Today was a day that it got the better of me. Today I'm grateful I stumbled upon this post.
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Originally Posted by Kcmiranda
Right now, I am upstairs in the spare bedroom with my two dogs, trying and not succeeding to listening to everytime my husband goes into the garage, takes, a puff off his cigar, opens his "beer fridge", walks into the basement, sits down, and cracks a beer. He was home at noon. I got home at 430. Since I have been home, I have, on and off counted 14 cracks. I hate the cracks. It's only 8:30. He still have 2-3 more hours to go.I find myself holding my breath as the sound travels upstairs.
Music, reading, phone calls, studying work, supports, friends, exercising, yoga, clean eating, deep breathing, vitamins, massages, cleaning, mindfulness, etc. I do it all. The cracks each night remind me that my efforts to be well and healthy are a beautiful thing and vital for me and my dependence.
The floor and nights divide us. My husband's "I'm trying, I need more time, I like to drink, I don't need to talk to anyone, I'll figure it out, I'm just a bad husband, you're being crazy, etc.", keep me wondering. The logical part of my brain knows I would be okay on my own if that ever happens. The emotional part of my brain loves my husband. I'm exhausted and can't sleep.
Today was a day that it got the better of me. Today I'm grateful I stumbled upon this post.
Music, reading, phone calls, studying work, supports, friends, exercising, yoga, clean eating, deep breathing, vitamins, massages, cleaning, mindfulness, etc. I do it all. The cracks each night remind me that my efforts to be well and healthy are a beautiful thing and vital for me and my dependence.
The floor and nights divide us. My husband's "I'm trying, I need more time, I like to drink, I don't need to talk to anyone, I'll figure it out, I'm just a bad husband, you're being crazy, etc.", keep me wondering. The logical part of my brain knows I would be okay on my own if that ever happens. The emotional part of my brain loves my husband. I'm exhausted and can't sleep.
Today was a day that it got the better of me. Today I'm grateful I stumbled upon this post.
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Originally Posted by trailmix
I'm glad for you that you've found SR Kcmiranda, you'll find lots of support here. Hope you will stick around and post and read some of the threads which you will probably relate to.
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For me it wasn't as much as sounds with my exAH but his breath in the morning and the blaming me for being upset with him... Like he would sum everything up (all the pain, drinking and driving, gas lighting) into "Well if you wouldn't get upset we would be ok"...BARF
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Definitely beer cans opening . I cringe at the sound now! When I’d be in the bathroom or showering I can hear him opening a beer. When we would talk on the phone I can hear it . He’d be talking about how he’s gonna cut down but forgets I can hear him opening a beer SMH !!
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Originally Posted by PeacefulWater12
That stupid dozy grin on his face at 6am when he had been drinking all night!
Ok, that is not a sound but you know what I mean!
Ok, that is not a sound but you know what I mean!
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Originally Posted by LovelyKaya33333
For me it wasn't as much as sounds with my exAH but his breath in the morning and the blaming me for being upset with him... Like he would sum everything up (all the pain, drinking and driving, gas lighting) into "Well if you wouldn't get upset we would be ok"...BARF
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Originally Posted by Kcmiranda
Yes we (or I) can definitely empathize with what you are saying! Idk if it is your experience, but it's the grin or happy face once intoxicated and him/her remaining totally unaware or unavailable to process that things really aren't okay once again and you know that it is a waste of breathe to say anything if they are already there.
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Beer can tops for sure. Ugh I used to get so mad. Thankfully with the bedroom being upstairs and him being in the living room I can no longer hear it. How sad is that when I look for houses for sale that I check and see if there is a second floor for that reason only. 🤦🏼♀️
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Originally Posted by Kcmiranda
Yes we (or I) can definitely empathize with what you are saying! Idk if it is your experience, but it's the grin or happy face once intoxicated and him/her remaining totally unaware or unavailable to process that things really aren't okay once again and you know that it is a waste of breathe to say anything if they are already there.
After I posted about AH, a memory of my alcoholic father came up. The exact same grin on his face.
Sad really but something to keep well away from. Feel compassion for them from a long distance away. A very long distance away!
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