Cutting back is making me nervous
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Cutting back is making me nervous
AP cut back alcohol use over a significant +++ increase in dec/Jan. Whilst this is great step, it's also very unnerving.
1. It's not detoxing, nor is it giving up altogether
2. Cutting back does not equal recovery, or facing one's issues
3. It may not be sustainable (Yep, increased again last night)
4. It hasn't involved any discussion with me or anyone else as far as I know
5. It feels like the eye of the cyclone - that quiet few hours before it all starts again
Im going to focus on my life, not where the empties are hidden today.
1. It's not detoxing, nor is it giving up altogether
2. Cutting back does not equal recovery, or facing one's issues
3. It may not be sustainable (Yep, increased again last night)
4. It hasn't involved any discussion with me or anyone else as far as I know
5. It feels like the eye of the cyclone - that quiet few hours before it all starts again
Im going to focus on my life, not where the empties are hidden today.
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Glad you posted, Wombaticus! Cute name
You are absolutely correct in paying no attention to what your AP is drinking. It is not your problem. You need to focus on how you are going to live your life and gain as much information about alcoholism as you can. Have you considered Alanon meetings?
You are absolutely correct in paying no attention to what your AP is drinking. It is not your problem. You need to focus on how you are going to live your life and gain as much information about alcoholism as you can. Have you considered Alanon meetings?
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Originally Posted by Wombaticus 
It feels like the eye of the cyclone - that quiet few hours before it all starts again
Nothing you can do about it, but you are seeing it clearly, that's great. All you can do is focus on yourself, your life. Get out and have some fun! Do have a group of friends or family you meet up with at all?
Living with an alcoholic can be quite isolating as you stop going to social functions and inviting people over etc. Need to fight the isolation. What do you do for fun?
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Originally Posted by trailmix
. Need to fight the isolation. What do you do for fun?
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Alanon was a lifesaver for me, especially the support of other people in similar situations. I learned to stop pointing my finger at the alcoholic and deal with my own codependency issues, eventually detaching. I recommend it.
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Originally Posted by NYCDoglvr
Alanon was a lifesaver for me, especially the support of other people in similar situations. I learned to stop pointing my finger at the alcoholic and deal with my own codependency issues, eventually detaching. I recommend it.
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