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Old 02-18-2019, 09:02 PM
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Sorry about your loss.
As a medical provider I will tell you that we really donít know much about addiction. One of the very few positives that came out of my XRAH being an alcoholic and then going to rehab and getting sober is that I am now very well versed in addiction/alcoholism. Previously I would recommend AA and consider rehab. Thatís about the extent we learn. Now I get it, I understand the alcoholic patient much better and I can counsel them much better and be much more compassionate. So I am not entirely surprised as the lack of empathy from the doctors. Because they donít understand what you went through/are still dealing with. Donít take it personal, it is their lack of knowledge On how addiction really affects families and relationships.
Anyway, I am sorry that you are now having to deal with a lot of unknowns. That should remind all of us, addict or not, that we should get a will etc in order obecause you never know. I am certainly guilty of that.
Wishing you strength and sending you hugs
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Old 02-18-2019, 09:16 PM
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Grief can take many expressions. Self-kindness and extra self-care are important through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Old 02-18-2019, 11:16 PM
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Ukiah,

Very sorry for your loss. Thatís a lot to deal with, a lot of finality. Just wanted you to know youíre being thought about and sending vibes, prayers, whatever youíre comfortable with.
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Old 02-19-2019, 12:29 AM
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This is a very complicated time for you on many levels. Accept help where it is offered. Sounds like a bit of a long road ahead. Take one day at a time.
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Old 02-19-2019, 07:13 AM
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I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending huge hugs.
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Old 02-19-2019, 03:45 PM
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So very sorry for your loss and for all that brings you here. Your expression of love for your dad is touching...may it give you peace and strength in the days ahead.
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Old 02-20-2019, 04:32 AM
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I am so, so sorry for your loss.
You said it perfectly. "I loved my dad very much and I know he loved me. I guess in my heart that is going to have to be enough for me hold on to."

In the coming months, I hope you will remember those words. HE LOVED YOU and he knew YOU LOVED HIM.

The next few months will be challenging, but NOT impossible. I offer you my most sincere sympathy and prayers.
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Old 02-20-2019, 07:20 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope probate goes smoothly.
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