Dad admitted to hospital yesterday, end stage alcoholism
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Sorry about your loss.
As a medical provider I will tell you that we really don’t know much about addiction. One of the very few positives that came out of my XRAH being an alcoholic and then going to rehab and getting sober is that I am now very well versed in addiction/alcoholism. Previously I would recommend AA and consider rehab. That’s about the extent we learn. Now I get it, I understand the alcoholic patient much better and I can counsel them much better and be much more compassionate. So I am not entirely surprised as the lack of empathy from the doctors. Because they don’t understand what you went through/are still dealing with. Don’t take it personal, it is their lack of knowledge On how addiction really affects families and relationships.
Anyway, I am sorry that you are now having to deal with a lot of unknowns. That should remind all of us, addict or not, that we should get a will etc in order obecause you never know. I am certainly guilty of that.
Wishing you strength and sending you hugs
As a medical provider I will tell you that we really don’t know much about addiction. One of the very few positives that came out of my XRAH being an alcoholic and then going to rehab and getting sober is that I am now very well versed in addiction/alcoholism. Previously I would recommend AA and consider rehab. That’s about the extent we learn. Now I get it, I understand the alcoholic patient much better and I can counsel them much better and be much more compassionate. So I am not entirely surprised as the lack of empathy from the doctors. Because they don’t understand what you went through/are still dealing with. Don’t take it personal, it is their lack of knowledge On how addiction really affects families and relationships.
Anyway, I am sorry that you are now having to deal with a lot of unknowns. That should remind all of us, addict or not, that we should get a will etc in order obecause you never know. I am certainly guilty of that.
Wishing you strength and sending you hugs
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I am so, so sorry for your loss.
You said it perfectly. "I loved my dad very much and I know he loved me. I guess in my heart that is going to have to be enough for me hold on to."
In the coming months, I hope you will remember those words. HE LOVED YOU and he knew YOU LOVED HIM.
The next few months will be challenging, but NOT impossible. I offer you my most sincere sympathy and prayers.
You said it perfectly. "I loved my dad very much and I know he loved me. I guess in my heart that is going to have to be enough for me hold on to."
In the coming months, I hope you will remember those words. HE LOVED YOU and he knew YOU LOVED HIM.
The next few months will be challenging, but NOT impossible. I offer you my most sincere sympathy and prayers.
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