Thank you.
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Thank you.
I just want to say, Thank you from the bottom of my heart for to every one of you who have taken the time over the last year or so to comment, reply and challenge my many posts. I will be forever grateful to the huge help I have received in here, it has given me the time I needed to hear, listen and process what was going on for me. I would have gone under in many ways without being able to check in here and ask for help. And you replied. Thank you so much. Today I feel I have got that monkey off my back. Those of you who know me know who I mean. I may still require your advise and help but I haven't felt so positive for a long long time. I deserve so much better, I've seen behind the mask and it's ugly. I deserve better. Again thanks for listening to my many many posts and still replying when I know at times you would have felt otherwise. I love this forum.
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Originally Posted by FeelingGreat 
Well done Glenjo - painful as it's been you've really 'learned a valuable lesson' as they say on Southpark.
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You're welcome. You give a lot of good to us, also!
Unconditional happiness and recognizing alignment:
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Unconditional happiness and recognizing alignment:
https://youtu.be/gYNCs3j_o2w
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Originally Posted by Mango212
You're welcome. You give a lot of good to us, also!
Unconditional happiness and recognizing alignment:
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Unconditional happiness and recognizing alignment:
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Originally Posted by Glenjo99
I really have. I feel like if he offered me a million dollars id say go for f$#k yourself. Pardon my language. I really don't want him anymore. It was an illusion. But not to get sidetracked thanks to everyone here. That said I've learned enough to know I may ask for your help/advise in other ways. He doesn't get to have any of me anymore. I'm special x
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Originally Posted by Glenjo99
Is it ok to say I see a day I might not be checking in so much? I won't lie, been heightened by fact I went on a date. Lovely time. He asked me questions!!!!!!
Seriously though Glenjo, by posting here, by honestly sharing what you have been going through you have helped many no doubt, including people who read here but don't post (come on out folks, we don't bite - much).
Also, reading others experiences helps us all (although I'm only speaking for myself of course) to learn, to see other points of view, to see how people deal with things and how we all have varying perspectives and maybe somewhat different ways of coping.
I'm so glad you are out of his clutches but I do hope you will stick around and keep posting, your knowledge is really valuable.
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Originally Posted by trailmix
No, it's not ok, get back in the codie-bus!
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Seriously though Glenjo, by posting here, by honestly sharing what you have been going through you have helped many no doubt, including people who read here but don't post (come on out folks, we don't bite - much). Been on a second date tonight, I know it's Codependent but I haven't thought about di@$ you know who
Also, reading others experiences helps us all (although I'm only speaking for myself of course) to learn, to see other points of view, to see how people deal with things and how we all have varying perspectives and maybe somewhat different ways of coping.
I'm so glad you are out of his clutches but I do hope you will stick around and keep posting, your knowledge is really valuable.
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Seriously though Glenjo, by posting here, by honestly sharing what you have been going through you have helped many no doubt, including people who read here but don't post (come on out folks, we don't bite - much). Been on a second date tonight, I know it's Codependent but I haven't thought about di@$ you know who
Also, reading others experiences helps us all (although I'm only speaking for myself of course) to learn, to see other points of view, to see how people deal with things and how we all have varying perspectives and maybe somewhat different ways of coping.
I'm so glad you are out of his clutches but I do hope you will stick around and keep posting, your knowledge is really valuable.
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Originally Posted by trailmix
No, it's not ok, get back in the codie-bus!
Seriously though Glenjo, by posting here, by honestly sharing what you have been going through you have helped many no doubt, including people who read here but don't post (come on out folks, we don't bite - much).
Also, reading others experiences helps us all (although I'm only speaking for myself of course) to learn, to see other points of view, to see how people deal with things and how we all have varying perspectives and maybe somewhat different ways of coping.
I'm so glad you are out of his clutches but I do hope you will stick around and keep posting, your knowledge is really valuable.
Seriously though Glenjo, by posting here, by honestly sharing what you have been going through you have helped many no doubt, including people who read here but don't post (come on out folks, we don't bite - much).
Also, reading others experiences helps us all (although I'm only speaking for myself of course) to learn, to see other points of view, to see how people deal with things and how we all have varying perspectives and maybe somewhat different ways of coping.
I'm so glad you are out of his clutches but I do hope you will stick around and keep posting, your knowledge is really valuable.
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Congrats again Glenjo for ending this tough situation.
I do hope you will check in and also keep going to alanon meetings. It took me years to figure out why I was drawn to such a destructive relationship with my qualifier. I discovered that he really wasn't my problem nor his addiction. The problems were within myself. I didn't want to see that but did with time.
If you read around here, you will find people that got out of one relationship with an addict just to find another. Doing the work on ourselves is the best way to protect ourselves from doing the same thing again. Of course none of us is completely immune.
I do hope you will check in and also keep going to alanon meetings. It took me years to figure out why I was drawn to such a destructive relationship with my qualifier. I discovered that he really wasn't my problem nor his addiction. The problems were within myself. I didn't want to see that but did with time.
If you read around here, you will find people that got out of one relationship with an addict just to find another. Doing the work on ourselves is the best way to protect ourselves from doing the same thing again. Of course none of us is completely immune.
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Originally Posted by Bekindalways
Congrats again Glenjo for ending this tough situation.
I do hope you will check in and also keep going to alanon meetings. It took me years to figure out why I was drawn to such a destructive relationship with my qualifier. I discovered that he really wasn't my problem nor his addiction. The problems were within myself. I didn't want to see that but did with time.
If you read around here, you will find people that got out of one relationship with an addict just to find another. Doing the work on ourselves is the best way to protect ourselves from doing the same thing again. Of course none of us is completely immune.
I do hope you will check in and also keep going to alanon meetings. It took me years to figure out why I was drawn to such a destructive relationship with my qualifier. I discovered that he really wasn't my problem nor his addiction. The problems were within myself. I didn't want to see that but did with time.
If you read around here, you will find people that got out of one relationship with an addict just to find another. Doing the work on ourselves is the best way to protect ourselves from doing the same thing again. Of course none of us is completely immune.
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Originally Posted by Mango212
Btw - have fun with the Marie Kondo book! The tie-in with mind-body-spirit-life is great.
Two things that keep coming back to me is trusting my instincts and awareness of joy.
Two things that keep coming back to me is trusting my instincts and awareness of joy.
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