He rang me tonight. Not good at all!
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As a recovering alcoholic I think the worst thing you can do is continue contact with him. It will be enabling him. Getting sober is a solitary activity, he must stop drinking on his own. Sounds tough, but we all have to do this.
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Originally Posted by atalose 
I believe tradition 3 of AA is…….the only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.
I’m sure many people show up to AA intoxicated just as I am sure that those same people can’t take in what is being said or remotely understand it. Usually those people don’t stick around for very long.
I’m sure many people show up to AA intoxicated just as I am sure that those same people can’t take in what is being said or remotely understand it. Usually those people don’t stick around for very long.
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Originally Posted by NYCDoglvr
As a recovering alcoholic I think the worst thing you can do is continue contact with him. It will be enabling him. Getting sober is a solitary activity, he must stop drinking on his own. Sounds tough, but we all have to do this.
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Originally Posted by atalose
Isn’t that what’s called an oxymoron.
Don’t buy any stock in his words it’s a very bad investment.
Don’t buy any stock in his words it’s a very bad investment.
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His parents spent 32,000 in rehab fees over last few months.
Now is the time for you to stop the emotional hemorrhage this person causes you and to come up with a positive plan for yourself on how to handle this situation moving forward.
Odds are his living situation with his cousin is not going to last that’s a given. And since you are in the immediate area you will become his next target if you do not enforce your boundaries now with the no contact.
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Originally Posted by atalose
His parents spent cash value you have spent emotional value, neither has had any impact on the addict. Big lessons learned I hope.
Now is the time for you to stop the emotional hemorrhage this person causes you and to come up with a positive plan for yourself on how to handle this situation moving forward.
Odds are his living situation with his cousin is not going to last that’s a given. And since you are in the immediate area you will become his next target if you do not enforce your boundaries now with the no contact.
Now is the time for you to stop the emotional hemorrhage this person causes you and to come up with a positive plan for yourself on how to handle this situation moving forward.
Odds are his living situation with his cousin is not going to last that’s a given. And since you are in the immediate area you will become his next target if you do not enforce your boundaries now with the no contact.
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Originally Posted by Glenjo99
but I will come up with an excuse.
You are doing good, stay strong!
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Originally Posted by SmallButMighty
A simple, " No thank you, I have plans" should suffice.... doesn't even matter if that plan is junking out the hall closet ..... you do not need to J.A.D.E.
You are doing good, stay strong!
You are doing good, stay strong!
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I can see how easy after all my hard work, which by the way is so beneficial right now, to be hooked in.
I received a text from his cousin and him asking me out to theirs this weekend. Finding it hard to say no but I will come up with an excuse.
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