Who they really are...
I believe who I fell in love with is who my AH desperately wanted to be, but in the end he couldn't maintain that mask so it eventually came off. Not a bad person just flawed like everyone else but not willing to do the work to become who he wanted to be.
This is an extremely insightful and accurate description of my XAH.
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On one hand they are getting paid to pay for own their vice. But with most addictions the longer it goes on the worse it gets. I've seen workplace alcoholics who were covered for for years start having major incidents at work including accidents, getting caught lying and/or simply not doing the job the best they could/should. They also expanded their intoxicating use into hard street drugs. If it weren't for a union they would've lost their job the first time instead of the third time they caught intoxicated during an incident. Those people also wound up loosing their family, marriage, house etc.
To me the 'functional' alcoholic is literally an accident or incident waiting to happen. Functional means they haven't gotten caught or suffered the consequences yet frequently from the help of enablers.
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yep
In vino veritas.
QUOTE=MsGrace;7180519]My take is somewhat different. I think who "they really are" is the person that is revealed when drunk. All inhibitions drop away and who is in there is revealed by substance: not caused by it.
Sober they are able to cover this up. It's much easier to be kind and thoughtful when you have filters and monitors.
It doesn't matter who is right or wrong on this issue. What matters is that we all stay in recovery and commit to it and our peace of mind.[/QUOTE]
QUOTE=MsGrace;7180519]My take is somewhat different. I think who "they really are" is the person that is revealed when drunk. All inhibitions drop away and who is in there is revealed by substance: not caused by it.
Sober they are able to cover this up. It's much easier to be kind and thoughtful when you have filters and monitors.
It doesn't matter who is right or wrong on this issue. What matters is that we all stay in recovery and commit to it and our peace of mind.[/QUOTE]
He had two more jobs, but neither lasted very long, as his addiction was getting worse.
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