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Old 10-06-2018, 11:03 PM
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Is it time yet?

My AH kept looking at his watch last night...8.15pm...9pm...9.15pm...
I asked why he kept doing this when all we were doing was watching tv, we had nothing planned or not expecting visitors etc. His answer was "Just checking if its time for a Jacky D yet". Turns out in his head he has to wait for the clock to hit 9.30pm before he can have a drink.
I asked why this was...if he felt like drinking at 8.15pm why didn't he just do it then? He said that's just how it is...
Has anyone else know an alcoholic to self impose such 'rules'?
The obvious clock watching confirms he was craving a drink...but why the partial self control? Has anyone else heard of or experienced this?
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Old 10-07-2018, 04:33 AM
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Hi Awal, I think this is what passes for moderation in the world of the A. Why doesn't he start sooner? Well he knows once he starts he won't stop, so he postpones. White-knucking isn't a type of recovery though.
It's a pity he doesn't use the time to find a substitute for drinking like a soft drink, a hobby, a walk, something to fill the gap.
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This doesn't sound like self-control to me, partial or otherwise. It sounds like a kind of slavery.
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It takes what it takes. Experiments in controlled drinking tend to be a common part of the journey.

I've had my own just as insane things I've done as the spouse of an alcoholic. Not looking back. One step forward at a time!
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It's what alcoholics use to maintain the illusion of control over their addiction. Very common. I did it all the time. Until I couldn't anymore. that's the next phase.
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Originally Posted by SparkleKitty View Post
This doesn't sound like self-control to me, partial or otherwise. It sounds like a kind of slavery.
I felt that...glancing at the watch waiting for time to tick by. Probably not even focussing on the tv programme...his head just full off wishing time away until he could 'allow' himself.
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I felt that...glancing at the watch waiting for time to tick by. Probably not even focussing on the tv programme...his head just full off wishing time away until he could 'allow' himself.
And I suspect that's probably just the tip of the iceberg. That's countdown with Jacky D in sight.

If you asked him for a broader view, ie: when you are having breakfast are you looking forward to 9:30? When it's lunch time are you counting down the hours?
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