knowthetriggers

First - I am sorry you are hurting. I am certain that we have all been there a time or two and it is painful.

I just wanted to touch base about "these people" that are texting and calling you. Honey, "these people" are toxic in your life right now. They may think they are helping you but they are pulling you right back in to your stinking thinking. Is there a way to either politely tell them that you are no longer interested in HIS business? Or block them if necessary.

Believe me, this is a good way to "flush out" your so called concerned friends. Speaking from my own experience here, once you enter into your recovery that is all YOU should be concerned with. If they are real friends they will understand. Prepare yourself to lose a few friends as you recover. They just don't get it and want to involve you in HIS drama.

Sounds like you are headed down a good path but also remember to take care of yourself and treat yourself kindly.

Triggers ~

Leelee168

I downloaded "Healing from Abuse" by Shannon Thomas on my Kindle. It's mainly directed at psychological abuse, but she also addresses that it often moves to other types of abuse including emotional, verbal and physical abuse (and it really does). It's set out in a series of steps and includes a lot of resources. I can say that it's been helpful to me.

Best you you.

qtpi

The dugan book is pretty good- it has information on why there is such a tug to return- and also why your feelings can become more uncomfortable after you have left. Things should be better - right? My dog is calmer. I can leave my diaries out. I can spend my time with caring people. I am never around alcohol or alcoholics. I am finally free! The dugan book helped me understand that I still miss the good parts- and why those good parts were so intense and euphoric- it's the intermittent chicken thing.