Should I text him or wait to hear from him?
That's very true.
In the meantime, I hope you read some of those stickies and look around the forum, the alcoholism and newcomers forums in particular.
If not for yourself, then for your friend. Knowledge is power as they say.
In the meantime, I hope you read some of those stickies and look around the forum, the alcoholism and newcomers forums in particular.
If not for yourself, then for your friend. Knowledge is power as they say.
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Yeh will do have looked at some. The in-between place in particular is very appropriate
Acceptance really is the only way forward. As much as I would like to argue against the silence, I can't. As much as I would like to know the "why's", I won't. I have to accept that, cry, pick myself back up and move forward.
And I pray--every day--that my friends are OK. That they are happy or at least working toward happy. That they are surrounded by supportive and loving people who bring joy to their world. And I have not prayed to be one of those people, because then my prayer becomes about me--and it isn't about me. It's about them and their ultimate well-being.
And yes, it hurts, and I am sad, too. I hope that you have a peaceful evening and that tomorrow dawns just a bit brighter.
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And I pray--every day--that my friends are OK. That they are happy or at least working toward happy. That they are surrounded by supportive and loving people who bring joy to their world. And I have not prayed to be one of those people, because then my prayer becomes about me--and it isn't about me. It's about them and their ultimate well-being.
Over time I realized that it didn't matter how smart/pretty/kind/caring I was. What really mattered is that we both live our lives the best we could each with our own burden of wounds and challenges. His wounds and challenges were none of my business.
And it hurt beyond hurt beyond hurt.
Please be kind to yourself Glenjo as what you are going through is no joke. There really should be some kind of spa/rehab/camp for us while we go through the crippling pain of walking away (or being shoved away) from the addict alcoholic.
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^^^^ This and it took me one hell of a long time to get to this place. I used to pray that, "God would bring him whatever would benefit him." With time, I realized I was not a benefit to him at all. This was hard to swallow and very humbling.
Over time I realized that it didn't matter how smart/pretty/kind/caring I was. What really mattered is that we both live our lives the best we could each with our own burden of wounds and challenges. His wounds and challenges were none of my business.
And it hurt beyond hurt beyond hurt.
Please be kind to yourself Glenjo as what you are going through is no joke. There really should be some kind of spa/rehab/camp for us while we go through the crippling pain of walking away (or being shoved away) from the addict alcoholic.
Over time I realized that it didn't matter how smart/pretty/kind/caring I was. What really mattered is that we both live our lives the best we could each with our own burden of wounds and challenges. His wounds and challenges were none of my business.
And it hurt beyond hurt beyond hurt.
Please be kind to yourself Glenjo as what you are going through is no joke. There really should be some kind of spa/rehab/camp for us while we go through the crippling pain of walking away (or being shoved away) from the addict alcoholic.
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