SoberLeigh

You, your brother and your family are in my prayers, dear one.

Maudcat

Thanks again, all, for your thoughts and support.
It’s difficult to help my mom, who is almost 93, and has her own health and cognitive issues.
Add an addicted sib into the mix and things definitely get hairy at times
Latest is he has misplaced his wallet with his health care cards, which, in her delightful co-dependent way, has my mother in a tizzy.
I can say “not my circus, not my monkeys” through clenched teeth til the cows come home, but I must say that after almost 4 years of dealing with them both in one way or another, I am permanently , irretrievably out of patience with the situation.
Which isn’t good.
yoga and exercise help, my spouse is extremely supportive and understanding, my older sib is a rock, and they both make me laugh so much.
And right now I have a seasonal job that I am loving.
So...things could be worse, yah?

Seren

Oh, Maudcat, yes...sometimes we just reach our limit.

And in spite of all that is going on with them, that's OK. You are allowed to step back, regroup, be good to Maudcat, right?

Sending continued prayers!

BoxinRotz

Over the last year n a half, I was struggling with myself on whether I could take care of my AH with love and dignity and the A-hole who lives in my mind would tell me I could just smother him with that fluffy feather pillow i sleep with... n I'd have to tell my inner A-hole to stop it... I wouldn't look good in coco browns taking a crap with a cellie.

Maudcat

I hear you, Boxin.

FireSprite

Just lots of ((((hugs)))) for you Maud.

I'm not sure there's any way to handle all of this with any more grace & patience than you've been demonstrating already. More will be revealed, eh?