Entire alcoholic family confirmed?
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Entire alcoholic family confirmed?
Just a confirmation really but if it walks and smells like a duck.
Ramble alert.
Know one family with alcoholic children with one being a known alcoholic not apologizing for their drinking regardless of the consequences. This lead to a debate as to the extent of their problems including someone saying they had at least one felony arrest. It was obvious for decades they had issues. Just partially using one of those free background check websites sure enough it came up although I didn't proceed & pay for details.
But the site also noted one of their siblings had a criminal record and would I like to buy that report as well. About 20 years ago that sibling was averaging a new car at least every other year. They said they were leasing by the year. Something wasn't right. Parents also had to travel to see them a few times in an emergency returning with few details. At first we figured living a new area affected their driving. But once we saw the third new car in 5 years we knew something was up. Last but not least that same person stopped drinking(at least in front of others). Every gathering, party, dinner no ever saw them drink a drop which is a good thing.
Over the years one of the parents had a very questionable job ending car accident. You also could frequently could smell their breath by mid late afternoon. And if you visited after 12 you were offered a drink. Then a few decades later we see parents in a brand new vehicle minus their "old" three year old luxury car. They were coming from their first day of 'volunteer" work at a place that frequently uses court ordered volunteers . One parent now frequently talks about their "group" with the depressing stories one tends to find in a rehab group of some kind. It's notable because the couple was always busy with their own lives & peers and all of the sudden out of the blue they are spending alot of time with strangers and different 'activities' they never once mentioned a desire to do.
There are other red flags including an adult child that doesn't want anything to do with them. Also significant inheritance several times over the last couple of decades has kept them out of financial ruin because at one point they were down to economy cars & suddenly moved out of a large home & into a much smaller house that still needed room for a home business.
Sometimes you don't want to admit someone you know and/or like has a problem or issues and it will take years/decades of events for you to say or admit it. But if it smells and walks like a duck it probably is.
Ramble alert.
Know one family with alcoholic children with one being a known alcoholic not apologizing for their drinking regardless of the consequences. This lead to a debate as to the extent of their problems including someone saying they had at least one felony arrest. It was obvious for decades they had issues. Just partially using one of those free background check websites sure enough it came up although I didn't proceed & pay for details.
But the site also noted one of their siblings had a criminal record and would I like to buy that report as well. About 20 years ago that sibling was averaging a new car at least every other year. They said they were leasing by the year. Something wasn't right. Parents also had to travel to see them a few times in an emergency returning with few details. At first we figured living a new area affected their driving. But once we saw the third new car in 5 years we knew something was up. Last but not least that same person stopped drinking(at least in front of others). Every gathering, party, dinner no ever saw them drink a drop which is a good thing.
Over the years one of the parents had a very questionable job ending car accident. You also could frequently could smell their breath by mid late afternoon. And if you visited after 12 you were offered a drink. Then a few decades later we see parents in a brand new vehicle minus their "old" three year old luxury car. They were coming from their first day of 'volunteer" work at a place that frequently uses court ordered volunteers . One parent now frequently talks about their "group" with the depressing stories one tends to find in a rehab group of some kind. It's notable because the couple was always busy with their own lives & peers and all of the sudden out of the blue they are spending alot of time with strangers and different 'activities' they never once mentioned a desire to do.
There are other red flags including an adult child that doesn't want anything to do with them. Also significant inheritance several times over the last couple of decades has kept them out of financial ruin because at one point they were down to economy cars & suddenly moved out of a large home & into a much smaller house that still needed room for a home business.
Sometimes you don't want to admit someone you know and/or like has a problem or issues and it will take years/decades of events for you to say or admit it. But if it smells and walks like a duck it probably is.
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