PhoenixRising211

That is a REALLY good take on dating! I am going to refer back to that. I just don't have a lot of faith in dating...period. I feel like i need some time on my own. Not even lonely. Kind of happy to be on my own, at this point. Being single is addicting, in it's own right. Doing whatever I want whenever I want and not hearing about how it wasn't enough for someone else. Yeah, single is pretty great, right now.

HardLessons

How about we all hop on a plane, fly down to Costa Rica, & set up a beach party in front of a particular hotel - play beach volley ball, horse shoes, limbo, & do shiny dolphins while swimming?

firebolt

Thats SO great! I tried dating not too long after I left XABF - you know....trying to make it all better with someone else...lol Thank GOD I had enough time here where I could quickly see I had no business dating. Cause slipping back into my old patterns came easily so many times before that.

So I took over a year off. It was one of the best things I've ever done for myself...because now, I love myself and my life enough, that the next dude will ONLY enhance it. The ones that don't, I say goodbye to immediately.

PhoenixRising211

Bwahahah! Hard Lessons, I want to hug you! haha! That made my day.
Thank you for the support. The further I leave him in the past, the more i see how awful his treatment was. There are days when I stumble, but on the days I don't it feels like each day I make exponential growth and healing. My friends have all said "Good Riddance. He was a nightmare.". I completely agree. A small (darker) part of me wants to travel to Costa Rica and write a GLOWING review about his biggest competitor. haha! Terrible..I know. Trying to reign that in. Looking forward to the day I forget his name and all the details of this.

PhoenixRising211

I get the whole "trying to make it better by dating someone else". LOL!

I had gotten back in touch with an old friend and he tried to date me a WEEK after all of this happened (I just cant seem to build any male friendships, they all want to date. Darn it). I tried rolling with it. Thinking it was just what I needed. He wanted to talk every day, sometimes twice a day. It was like we were already getting married except we hadn't even kissed yet or anything. He has a pot addiction and literally is unable to take a vacation because he owns his own towing company with his dad. I got myself out of that one, quickly. Nice enough guy. No need for a relationship.
I don't dislike men in general. But, boy am I leary about dating for fear of finding another guy with a drinking or substance abuse problem.

So I am going to have a blast being single, and celebrating my freedom. I have a fun trip planned to AZ, weekend after next. Can't wait!