Self - care
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Self - care
Oh my goodness everybody, take care of you!
I'm speaking for myself here because I'm going to have a very stressful morning. But then the rest of the weekend I've planned things for me. Just have to shed this heavy feeling.
Taking care of me is about self respect. I remind myself all the time that if I do t respect and love myself, how can I possibly love and respect others? And why would I expect others to love and respect me? And it feels good. Cheers.
I'm speaking for myself here because I'm going to have a very stressful morning. But then the rest of the weekend I've planned things for me. Just have to shed this heavy feeling.
Taking care of me is about self respect. I remind myself all the time that if I do t respect and love myself, how can I possibly love and respect others? And why would I expect others to love and respect me? And it feels good. Cheers.
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Good for you!!!
I suck at this, I really do. I think the only time I was able to do this was in the past three weeks after surgery. Before that it was probably before DS was born (2010). I have read so many times here how to do it and TO do it, before I just never get it going - too much life going on.
I suck at this, I really do. I think the only time I was able to do this was in the past three weeks after surgery. Before that it was probably before DS was born (2010). I have read so many times here how to do it and TO do it, before I just never get it going - too much life going on.
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Join Date: Jan 2018
Location: Oregon Coast
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I am getting better at this—
—I am doing the Whole 30 and eating healthy food.
—I got a treadmill and do 20 mins every morning.
—I try really really hard to get enough sleep.
—I spend time with uplifting family and friends.
—I get out in nature whenever I get the blues.
—I read posts here and also good self help books
—I attend Al Anon and counseling every week.
It is making a difference. Each week I feel better than the day before.
—I am doing the Whole 30 and eating healthy food.
—I got a treadmill and do 20 mins every morning.
—I try really really hard to get enough sleep.
—I spend time with uplifting family and friends.
—I get out in nature whenever I get the blues.
—I read posts here and also good self help books
—I attend Al Anon and counseling every week.
It is making a difference. Each week I feel better than the day before.
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Join Date: Mar 2016
Posts: 994
I suck at this, I really do.
Me too. Initially, post divorce, I lost weight, walked 15 miles a day and did things I loved. Then my sons came to live with me and I gradually gravitated to old ways due to time pressure and losing motivation. I need to get back on the horse.
Me too. Initially, post divorce, I lost weight, walked 15 miles a day and did things I loved. Then my sons came to live with me and I gradually gravitated to old ways due to time pressure and losing motivation. I need to get back on the horse.
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I literally need to google a list of things to do to make me happy, and think carefully about what I want to do just for me and not for someone else or because I'm taking someone's advice. I appreciate the lists on this thread.
Mine are:
Slow deliberate walking
An exercise dvd
Reading a cook book and trying out a new recipe
Trail running
Dancing
Weight lifting (even a little bit)
Yoga
Crochet and knitting
Dance classes
Dinner and a movie... Alone
Time with friends, (I have to work on this one better)
Walking the dogs
School
Shopping
Reading fiction (I need to take time to do this more)
Writing stuff on sober recovery
And self care:
Washing the dishes
Organizing/ purging
Meditation
Writing in my journal
Alanon
Counselling
Reading books and listening to books on audible, mostly self-help
I try to avoid spending too much time:
Playing candy crush
Helping my husband feel better
I need to stop and think
What do I really want to do? Before I answer the phone. Before I start thinking of ideas for my husband.
Mine are:
Slow deliberate walking
An exercise dvd
Reading a cook book and trying out a new recipe
Trail running
Dancing
Weight lifting (even a little bit)
Yoga
Crochet and knitting
Dance classes
Dinner and a movie... Alone
Time with friends, (I have to work on this one better)
Walking the dogs
School
Shopping
Reading fiction (I need to take time to do this more)
Writing stuff on sober recovery
And self care:
Washing the dishes
Organizing/ purging
Meditation
Writing in my journal
Alanon
Counselling
Reading books and listening to books on audible, mostly self-help
I try to avoid spending too much time:
Playing candy crush
Helping my husband feel better
I need to stop and think
What do I really want to do? Before I answer the phone. Before I start thinking of ideas for my husband.
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Join Date: Jan 2018
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Originally Posted by Sailorgirl57 
I am getting better at this—
—I am doing the Whole 30 and eating healthy food.
—I got a treadmill and do 20 mins every morning.
—I try really really hard to get enough sleep.
—I spend time with uplifting family and friends.
—I get out in nature whenever I get the blues.
—I read posts here and also good self help books
—I attend Al Anon and counseling every week.
It is making a difference. Each week I feel better than the day before.
—I am doing the Whole 30 and eating healthy food.
—I got a treadmill and do 20 mins every morning.
—I try really really hard to get enough sleep.
—I spend time with uplifting family and friends.
—I get out in nature whenever I get the blues.
—I read posts here and also good self help books
—I attend Al Anon and counseling every week.
It is making a difference. Each week I feel better than the day before.
And you're right it helps. After a week or so of daily taking care of me, I do handle life situations much more efficiently.
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Join Date: Apr 2018
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I love this thread.
My self-care experiences keep changing. I find the interactive word games forum here at SR are great for me. Tonight was the first time I approached the "kid stuff you remember" game with the viewpoint:
"kid stuff" I have memories about.
I have kids --- there are lots of kids things I have memories about beyond my own childhood! (A lightbulb moment.)
I called my support network for help and emotional support today, went to my favorite tire shop and had new snow tires put on my Jeep, and had extra meditation time this morning.
My self-care experiences keep changing. I find the interactive word games forum here at SR are great for me. Tonight was the first time I approached the "kid stuff you remember" game with the viewpoint:
"kid stuff" I have memories about.
I have kids --- there are lots of kids things I have memories about beyond my own childhood! (A lightbulb moment.
)I called my support network for help and emotional support today, went to my favorite tire shop and had new snow tires put on my Jeep, and had extra meditation time this morning.
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