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Old 04-11-2018, 08:13 PM
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I'm sorry.
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Old 04-11-2018, 08:40 PM
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Crying. I'm so sorry. Thank you for posting. I want to be everything she was as a woman. What a terrible baffling thing alcohol is.
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Old 04-12-2018, 12:25 AM
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Hey djayr, I sent a PM to you. Lord bless you...
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Old 04-12-2018, 12:47 AM
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So very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your beautiful post.
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Old 04-12-2018, 01:24 AM
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Iím really sorry for your loss Djayr.
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Old 04-12-2018, 03:15 AM
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DjayR , I am so sorry for your loss. May the Lord's peace and comfort surround you and her family at this time.
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Old 04-12-2018, 02:53 PM
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I’m so sorry, djayr.
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Old 04-12-2018, 03:21 PM
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Old 04-14-2018, 06:08 AM
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So sorry for your loss and at such a young age. This disease is unforgiving. You are in my prayers.
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Old 04-14-2018, 06:30 AM
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It sounds like she was very loved ❤️
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Old 04-14-2018, 11:41 AM
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Such a tragedy, and I am so sorry for your loss. That outcome scares me the most. I lose my life to this addiction while destroying my family's lives in the process. Addiction is evil reincarnated.
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Old 04-14-2018, 06:40 PM
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Sorry for your loss. I still worry about my exAgf because she's still going 200mph with her drinking/lifestyle and I will always love her.
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Old 04-15-2018, 10:05 AM
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Originally Posted by djayr View Post
Hello:

The best thing I did was put her on God's hands. He made her, he loves her, he guided her, and he certainly healed her miraculously to the amazement of many - over and over. She was in God's hands the night she died, the night before Easter, relaxing in her apartment surrounded by cats and photos of the many she loved. She was a lovable person.
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Amen!

My 1st wife lost her life at 44 to alcoholism right in the middle of the divorce. The best thing I did was put her in Gods hands.
We aren't God and can't rescue a grown person from themselves after a certain point.

Mt heart goes out to you, her family and friends. There is life that comes from death, it's just not where we are looking.

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Old 04-16-2018, 07:32 PM
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My heart is with you. My AH is near death and won't or can't stop drinking. The heartbreak is so overwhelming sometimes I think that I too will die from the pain.
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Old 04-17-2018, 09:10 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Your post is so beautiful yet so sad. It shows what a healthy mature individual you are, in that you saw all the healthy parts of your ex wife that existed along with the unhealthy parts of her disease.

One thing stood out for me:
As a Christian I struggle with God's purpose in alcoholism. XAW was traumatized in her childhood, I will never know what it was. She believed in God and Jesus and forgiveness and during her clear moments, I saw a beautiful, child like faith in her. She loved going to church and she acted more like Jesus than 99% of people I have met.
FWIW, my opinion is that God doesn't have a purpose in alcoholism, just like He doesn't have a purpose in cancer. Diseases are not of God. They just "are". Man made, environmental, or "egoic lies" (or whatever word you want to use) based. I just don't see it as God deciding who is going to have alcoholism, who is going to have cancer. I see alcoholism as us humans being in pain, and turning to a poison that lies to us because we think it's helping us feel better. I see alcoholism as us turning away from God, because we're believing in that false alluring power of alcohol. We don't even realize that the Power of God is what can help our alcoholism and pain from what caused us to drink in the first place.

I don't think God has a purpose, either, in trauma happening. I think trauma is just another example of humans being separate from God, doing their will instead of doing His will. It's the reminder that God gave us free will as a gift, but it's up to us to use it according to His will.

That being said, there was a purpose for her life, and that is to be a witness for God's love. In her memory we can all try to be better people like she was. And to remember that alcoholism is a disease.

Again this is just my opinion I thought I'd share. I'm not saying it's right. I'm not even sure the words I'm writing are matching what I'm trying to say. But I hope that it helps in some way to bring you a sense of peace.
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Old 04-17-2018, 04:49 PM
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I am so sorry to hear this. I recently went through this same sort of loss...it's still a struggle to understand sometimes.

So sorry.
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Old 08-01-2018, 03:50 PM
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife. What a terrible disease addiction is. Your kindness to her and love shows through your message. I'm thinking of you!
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