Staying silent
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Keep posting HH. Things will work out..but don't isolate yourself anymore than you already have. We are all here for you with no judgement. xx
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I understand the financial burden all too well, but it sounds like you have some plans! Sometimes those things may only seem like baby steps but in reality they are Much bigger than we realize at the time (or from an outsiders perspective)
I agree with LB - isolation is truly awful. Please take her advice
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I haven't spoke to him this weekend except to be civil. I'm spending the time with my children and family. Trying not to interact. It's so hard to think this is his acceptable relationship. I can't imagine saying, "I do" if I knew this would have been my married life.
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Sure does take a lot of guts hanging in there when you get the "silent treatment". I hope for your sake you can exit this misery soon and really start enjoying who you are. Some relationships start with so much promise, only to find out it had been a mistake. If you are miserable, you know he probably is as well. The sooner you can get out the better for you both. Don't let this diminish your life light.
HH - if you could have anything in the world that you wanted without regard to your husband or job or kids, what would it be?
Maybe changing your focus away from the things that are "lacking" & coming up with personal goals & dreams can help motivate the change you desire? Get WILD - the sky is the limit in defining your wants & dreams. (although, admittedly, this was very difficult for me in early recovery & is still a challenge sometimes)
Look - we have ALL made missteps that have kept us looping around the same cycles in our journeys so don't get down on yourself for being human....
I think working on your self-talk & self-esteem is a critical first step & I think a lot of your discomfort is coming from the fact that you ARE working on this & realizing YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Maybe changing your focus away from the things that are "lacking" & coming up with personal goals & dreams can help motivate the change you desire? Get WILD - the sky is the limit in defining your wants & dreams. (although, admittedly, this was very difficult for me in early recovery & is still a challenge sometimes)
Look - we have ALL made missteps that have kept us looping around the same cycles in our journeys so don't get down on yourself for being human....
I think working on your self-talk & self-esteem is a critical first step & I think a lot of your discomfort is coming from the fact that you ARE working on this & realizing YOU DESERVE BETTER.
I looked up the book FS recommended, and here is the link to the PDF for anyone interested: https://archonmatrix.com/wp-content/...ant-Yasser.pdf
Thanks, FireSprite!
Thanks, FireSprite!
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I asked my boss if I can work more hours. He's checking with the administrator. I don't want to but I see I have to.
H keeps asking me if I'm sick. I'm not, I just don't want to engage. There's an in law party coming up that out don't plan to attend. I'll find something better to do.
I could go into a long rant but it would waste my time and energy. I'm staying focused on myself and the children.
H keeps asking me if I'm sick. I'm not, I just don't want to engage. There's an in law party coming up that out don't plan to attend. I'll find something better to do.
I could go into a long rant but it would waste my time and energy. I'm staying focused on myself and the children.
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