A breakup, a move out and where next
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A breakup, a move out and where next
Hey all!
I've split with my partner for many reasons, main one being he smoked and drank everyday whilst I am off it all from October. So I've had to move out. I'm temporarily living with a friend until June then I can either live on my own, which I would love due to no one else's rules. I've never lived alone or thought I could but now I feel I would benefit from it. But it is very very expensive. It'd mean little excess money to save.
I can live with another friend, who isn't reliable and could fall through at last minute.
Or I could move into my parents which would mean I'd have a bed and little space. All my things would have to go into storage with little access and i hate the thought of it. I can also see there being plenty of arguments. On the plus I could save money.
The reason I want to save money is to do a university course next year and pay off an existing overdraft.
I'm so overwhelmed!! It's so much to process. Do I look to short term happiness which could lead to long term and live on my own? Then worry about the degree later down the line. Do I sacrifice my happiness and live with others just so that I can have money for next year.
I cannot figure it out. I'm trying to keep sober, process a breakup, decide on my future and find somewhere to live all at once. I feel mentally drained by it all. I hate not having stability and yet I am blessed with options
I've split with my partner for many reasons, main one being he smoked and drank everyday whilst I am off it all from October. So I've had to move out. I'm temporarily living with a friend until June then I can either live on my own, which I would love due to no one else's rules. I've never lived alone or thought I could but now I feel I would benefit from it. But it is very very expensive. It'd mean little excess money to save.
I can live with another friend, who isn't reliable and could fall through at last minute.
Or I could move into my parents which would mean I'd have a bed and little space. All my things would have to go into storage with little access and i hate the thought of it. I can also see there being plenty of arguments. On the plus I could save money.
The reason I want to save money is to do a university course next year and pay off an existing overdraft.
I'm so overwhelmed!! It's so much to process. Do I look to short term happiness which could lead to long term and live on my own? Then worry about the degree later down the line. Do I sacrifice my happiness and live with others just so that I can have money for next year.
I cannot figure it out. I'm trying to keep sober, process a breakup, decide on my future and find somewhere to live all at once. I feel mentally drained by it all. I hate not having stability and yet I am blessed with options
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I am strongly considering it. But it would mean a year contract and little money to save for college. But I could take the risk and make myself happy and strong now and worry about University later. Defer for another year if needs be.
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Thanks 😁 I made a list and I felt stronger about living alone. But saddened that it may mean giving up on uni next year. I already have a degree, but want another one in social work. Means long placements and no time to work for money. But where there's a will there's a way!!
The flipping of the coin is a good one. I'm definitely leaning towards own space.
The flipping of the coin is a good one. I'm definitely leaning towards own space.
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Can you make a compromise, like living alone and going to Uni part time. I got my degree very slowly and one course at a time, but even though it was so slow, I had more optimism because I was moving forward towards more independence.
I'm curious, what will your second degree be?
I'm curious, what will your second degree be?
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Can you make a compromise, like living alone and going to Uni part time. I got my degree very slowly and one course at a time, but even though it was so slow, I had more optimism because I was moving forward towards more independence.
I'm curious, what will your second degree be?
I'm curious, what will your second degree be?
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I don't think they have the part time course here anymore. One in Psychology already, and the next one hopefully will be Social Work.
I think my best plan is to live alone come July. (My friend said I can stay until then). If I can't find anywhere I have my parents as a safety net. And I'll have to worry about the Degree later on. It's not until September 2019
I think my best plan is to live alone come July. (My friend said I can stay until then). If I can't find anywhere I have my parents as a safety net. And I'll have to worry about the Degree later on. It's not until September 2019
I don't think they have the part time course here anymore. One in Psychology already, and the next one hopefully will be Social Work.
I think my best plan is to live alone come July. (My friend said I can stay until then). If I can't find anywhere I have my parents as a safety net. And I'll have to worry about the Degree later on. It's not until September 2019
I think my best plan is to live alone come July. (My friend said I can stay until then). If I can't find anywhere I have my parents as a safety net. And I'll have to worry about the Degree later on. It's not until September 2019
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I could technically but I already work 40 hours, and enjoy my free time. I can always pick up a shift here and there though extra for some more money. But I strongly believe in having off time for head space
Hey Stars, if you've decided on the living alone option, think about investigating living frugally. I know it sounds awful but actually it's constructive because you're saving for something that is important to you, not frittering away on little things.
I did it when unemployed for 2 years and became ingenious at finding ways not to spend while not really impacting my lifestyle too much. Lots of info out there about where to start.
I did it when unemployed for 2 years and became ingenious at finding ways not to spend while not really impacting my lifestyle too much. Lots of info out there about where to start.
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