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I would take this step by step.
(1) I would start to invest in my own life, person, but stay in the relationship. Workouts, Activities, Socializing, etc.
(2) I would try to get a new job offer first to feel safe
(3) I would directly speak to him about his alcohol abuse without being too confrontative, which makes it later on easier to say: "I gave you all chances", in case he will continue to drink
(4) like advised by all here, I would educate myself very clear about my rights in case of a divorce
(5) I would start saving money as well
(6) Build up a "separate" private life and make clear to him, it is his drinking habits that turn you off, which is why you do that. Don’t discuss it, just say it.
Your son studies, I assume, he is not the son of your alcoholic husband, since otherwise he would have to support him as the wealthier person?
No matter how you will decide - it looks to me you don't know yet for sure - start preparing and investing in yourself. How long will your son be studying?
Take the first step first, gain some ground, then decide to take the next step when ready.
Just suggesting, but this is, what I would do.
(1) I would start to invest in my own life, person, but stay in the relationship. Workouts, Activities, Socializing, etc.
(2) I would try to get a new job offer first to feel safe
(3) I would directly speak to him about his alcohol abuse without being too confrontative, which makes it later on easier to say: "I gave you all chances", in case he will continue to drink
(4) like advised by all here, I would educate myself very clear about my rights in case of a divorce
(5) I would start saving money as well
(6) Build up a "separate" private life and make clear to him, it is his drinking habits that turn you off, which is why you do that. Don’t discuss it, just say it.
Your son studies, I assume, he is not the son of your alcoholic husband, since otherwise he would have to support him as the wealthier person?
No matter how you will decide - it looks to me you don't know yet for sure - start preparing and investing in yourself. How long will your son be studying?
Take the first step first, gain some ground, then decide to take the next step when ready.
Just suggesting, but this is, what I would do.
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