dandylion

Expanding.....lol...Most all love songs are co-dependent sounding.....

Question...have you read the book Co-dependent No more???

Expanding

I started to but I haven't finished it

totfit

Sounds like it might just be who he is. Never enter a relationship thinking you are going to change someone. You better instead like what you see.

FeelingGreat

Push against him and he'll push back. Withdraw a bit and he's more likely to open up. If you can't live within his self-imposed boundaries he's not for you.

mylifeismine

A fundamental truth about relationships is that we attract
people who are at the same level of health/dysfunction that
we ourselves are at.

IMO, you are not a professional, and going into a relationship
hoping to "fix" someone is a gigantic red flag....

velma929

Expanding, are you a psychologist? Psychiatrist? Licensed clinical social worker? And if you were, you would be guilty of malpractice if you tried to have a romance with a patient.

Most alcoholics have people who love them. Love doesn't fix people.

NYCDoglvr

You want to bring down his walls ..... but does he?

We must accept -- and love -- people as they are. And sometimes they're just not the right person and we move on.