QUACKERs.... Part 4
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When I stopped drinking around him and he took me out to dinner:
Him: So you really aren’t going to have a glass of wine?
Me: No, I’ve told you repeatedly I’m done drinking around you. You can do whatever you like but I’m having water.
Him: (completely exasperated) Well then I guess we can’t get married then!!
Me: First off I never said I wanted to marry you. Two, you realize being a drinker isn’t a prerequisite for marriage right?
Him: When you’re married you have to do everything together. Including drinking. That’s marriage.
Omg I almost fell out of my chair laughing at that one and he thought he was right and I just don’t get it. Given that he’s divorced and I’ve never been married, his superior knowledge about how a marriage works makes it even better.
I started trying to call him to the bathroom every time I used it and then reminded him if we were going to get married someday we had to do everything together. He didn’t think it was as funny as I did.
Him: So you really aren’t going to have a glass of wine?
Me: No, I’ve told you repeatedly I’m done drinking around you. You can do whatever you like but I’m having water.
Him: (completely exasperated) Well then I guess we can’t get married then!!
Me: First off I never said I wanted to marry you. Two, you realize being a drinker isn’t a prerequisite for marriage right?
Him: When you’re married you have to do everything together. Including drinking. That’s marriage.
Omg I almost fell out of my chair laughing at that one and he thought he was right and I just don’t get it. Given that he’s divorced and I’ve never been married, his superior knowledge about how a marriage works makes it even better.
I started trying to call him to the bathroom every time I used it and then reminded him if we were going to get married someday we had to do everything together. He didn’t think it was as funny as I did.
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Originally Posted by Wamama48 
Before I knew not to argue with a drunk.....
Me- you're an alcoholic, you're destroying our marriage with your drinking.
AH-You're the one with the problem. Your problem is with your mom being an alcoholic. It's not that bad, you're projecting this on me when its her you have the problem with.
*Still shaking my head on his reasoning.
Me- you're an alcoholic, you're destroying our marriage with your drinking.
AH-You're the one with the problem. Your problem is with your mom being an alcoholic. It's not that bad, you're projecting this on me when its her you have the problem with.
*Still shaking my head on his reasoning.
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Yep, that reasoning came out of his mouth too many times to count. Now when I think of living with drunks, instead of a quacking duck, I see the Chesire cat from Alice In Wonderland. He just talks nonsense while Alice stands there trying not to laugh, or run away screaming.
Originally Posted by DontRemember
I'm sorry BUT his comeback with "your momma" made me chuckle. It's drunken whatever but..
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I love this thread. Apart from the humour it reminds me to not take anything he says too seriously, especially when I feel we are entering 'through the looking glass.' In the past I would try and reason, counter, show evidence, etc, what a waste of time. Now I just think in my head 'i know what I know' followed by 'quack, quack quack.' One day I might just flaps my arms like a duck and say it out loud! 
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XAG seeing me smoke a joint, after I had quit smoking cigs, drinking, hadn't smoked weed for months, and had been attending ACA meetings for months: "Drug addict!"
All of her friends are alcoholics, potheads and semi-regular coke users of course. But I'M the addict.
All of her friends are alcoholics, potheads and semi-regular coke users of course. But I'M the addict.
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'through the looking glass.'
I would get texts from one that would say "well...dark side Daryl came out last night." Eventually this got abbreviated to DSD for times sake.
I adopted this to some extent for my own circumstance at the time, and on THOSE NIGHTS, my text would say...."we'll, here I am, on Dark side Daryls insane train to crazy town again."
The other friend would call it "bat country" from Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas. She would call me and say, "can we get together? I need to get out of here because we're about to enter Bat Country."
Ugg - the things we do to find humor in that situation! Whatever gets us through, right!?!
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AH was slurring speech drunk. We were sitting in bed watching tv.
I'm not ashamed to admit, sometimes when he was that drunk I'd try to discuss _____ topic because I knew he'd be more likely to talk openly and not argue.
He was sitting up, leaning back against the headboard. I don't remember what I asked him. But, he crossed his arms, started shaking his head no and told me "I'm not saying anything because you take advantage of me when I'm drunk". He sat there, arms crossed, staring at the tv, refusing to speak.
I laughed because he looked like a 4 year old boy, pouting, refusing to talk. And I told him "youre right, that's exactly what I was doing. On rare ocassions, you're kinda smart when you're plastered."
I still laugh every time I think about that. 😂😂😂
I'm not ashamed to admit, sometimes when he was that drunk I'd try to discuss _____ topic because I knew he'd be more likely to talk openly and not argue.
He was sitting up, leaning back against the headboard. I don't remember what I asked him. But, he crossed his arms, started shaking his head no and told me "I'm not saying anything because you take advantage of me when I'm drunk". He sat there, arms crossed, staring at the tv, refusing to speak.
I laughed because he looked like a 4 year old boy, pouting, refusing to talk. And I told him "youre right, that's exactly what I was doing. On rare ocassions, you're kinda smart when you're plastered."
I still laugh every time I think about that. 😂😂😂
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This morning after a “three strikes you’re out” behavior where I basically told him (after he sobered up) that I want off of this merry-go-round I received this text:
Why can't we just blow it off and think of it as a couples argument?
Why can't we just blow it off and think of it as a couples argument?
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Omg
Originally Posted by mellybug2018
this morning after a “three strikes you’re out” behavior where i basically told him (after he sobered up) that i want off of this merry-go-round i received this text:
Why can't we just blow it off and think of it as a couples argument?
Why can't we just blow it off and think of it as a couples argument?
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Me : how long will you be away on the business trip?
Him Just a day
Me Oh, just a day for going so far (seemed implausible but did not press further)
He did not come back after a day. I text him
Me: I thought you were coming back today?
Him: No I will be back tommorrow
Me: But I know you told me it would be a day
Him: Well, I arrived Tuesday after 12 midnight (left on Tuesday at 5pm) and return on Thursday morning so technically it is a day.
Me: Funny my calendar shows 2 days if you leave on Tuesday and come back on Thursday. I must get me one of your calendars.
In the twilight zone big time and he is sober. It seems to me that they still have to bend the truth, manipulate, etc, never ceases to amaze me
Him Just a day
Me Oh, just a day for going so far (seemed implausible but did not press further)
He did not come back after a day. I text him
Me: I thought you were coming back today?
Him: No I will be back tommorrow
Me: But I know you told me it would be a day
Him: Well, I arrived Tuesday after 12 midnight (left on Tuesday at 5pm) and return on Thursday morning so technically it is a day.
Me: Funny my calendar shows 2 days if you leave on Tuesday and come back on Thursday. I must get me one of your calendars.
In the twilight zone big time and he is sober. It seems to me that they still have to bend the truth, manipulate, etc, never ceases to amaze me
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Givenup...I am sitting here and giggling....(let me know where you can get one of those calendars...I want one, too)...
LLLisa...come on...don't tell me that you have never been lost for hours and hours in the supermarket, yourself...!?
LLLisa...come on...don't tell me that you have never been lost for hours and hours in the supermarket, yourself...!?
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After AF was taken by ambulance for, I guess withdrawal? (he stopped taking his antidepressants COLD TURKEY while continuing to full on drink) he texted me saying that after they stabilized him, the doctor told him he was in GREAT health.
Pfft. Yeah. Ok. (insert eye roll)
Pfft. Yeah. Ok. (insert eye roll)
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... and another:
Ex is perturbed because I won't allow unsupervised visits with Kid, following a suicidal incident the past weekend (I know, that's not the funny part). Ex attempted to use logic and rationality to persuade me to rethink my decision:
"If you don't let me pick up Kid I will call the police and have you arrested and charged with contempt of court. Then you will be convicted of a crime and go to jail. After you get out of jail you will never be able to travel to the UK again for work because of your criminal record".
For some reason this did not convince me that it would be a good idea to send Kid over to his place.
Ex is perturbed because I won't allow unsupervised visits with Kid, following a suicidal incident the past weekend (I know, that's not the funny part). Ex attempted to use logic and rationality to persuade me to rethink my decision:
"If you don't let me pick up Kid I will call the police and have you arrested and charged with contempt of court. Then you will be convicted of a crime and go to jail. After you get out of jail you will never be able to travel to the UK again for work because of your criminal record".
For some reason this did not convince me that it would be a good idea to send Kid over to his place.
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