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Sadness
I woke up early today and, feeling sad, I decided to watch Jerry Seinfeld and Amy Schumer drinking coffee together to cheer me up. Amy made an alcoholic joke and I burst into tears. I guess there will be good days and bad days.,,,
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Remember Foster Brooks - the comedian who made his career acting like a drunk? I loved watching him when I was younger, but once you're in it, it doesn't seem so funny anymore. I used to do a fabulous Foster Brooks impression!
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Blueskies, there are TOTALLY good days and bad days. This thread may speak to you: https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...akes-time.html (A riff on "time takes time")
And you also might find something helpful here: https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ompassion.html (Compassion)
Grieving takes as long as it takes. You can't rush through it or take it as an "accelerated course." You can't cram for it like a mid-term exam. It will take its own sweet time. Even if you are as kind to yourself as possible, even if you do every healing thing you can think of, even if you do your best to surround yourself with positive people and positive thoughts, it will still take time.
Please don't take this to mean that you have no choice but to suffer and that there is no point in doing everything you can to learn, grow and heal. It doesn't mean that at all. What I want to say is that even if you're doing GREAT, even if you're thinking "I'm so far past all of that", grief can still blindside you.
But it will pass. It will all pass. And the skies will be blue indeed, in time...
And you also might find something helpful here: https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ompassion.html (Compassion)
Grieving takes as long as it takes. You can't rush through it or take it as an "accelerated course." You can't cram for it like a mid-term exam. It will take its own sweet time. Even if you are as kind to yourself as possible, even if you do every healing thing you can think of, even if you do your best to surround yourself with positive people and positive thoughts, it will still take time.
Please don't take this to mean that you have no choice but to suffer and that there is no point in doing everything you can to learn, grow and heal. It doesn't mean that at all. What I want to say is that even if you're doing GREAT, even if you're thinking "I'm so far past all of that", grief can still blindside you.
But it will pass. It will all pass. And the skies will be blue indeed, in time...
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The alcoholic sister when she fell off the wagon in Happy Valley set me off nearly 3 years post divorce. It surprised me but it was a flashback to how my life had been and how I was as a person then. Remembering the sheer pain of it all. xx
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This is such a supportive place
Thank you to all of you. My day got better in the afternoon when I had some nice conversations with coworkers. When I got home I found a text on my phone from my husband who wants me to meet him for a couple of hours on Sunday. This makes me happy.
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