Upsidedown23

This time he’s fallen asleep on the train, missed his stop and now has no idea where he is.

Told him to take a taxi, I’m not running around after him today. That’s a big step for me and I feel proud so just sharing it!

He’s called me 3 times to let me know he is in a taxi and on his way home, each time forgetting we just spoke about it. It’s not cute...

Ariesagain

Here’s a link to the title of your first post...your first instincts were dead on, yes?

Don’t know how long this link will work, they seem to time out for some reason...

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ng-myself.html (Afraid of losing myself)

It pretty much boils down to how much more of this you want to take.

Sending you a hug.

Upsidedown23

Yes you’re probably right. It’s very difficult to accept there is so much bad along with the good. When it’s good it’s great, but these little instances are such a nightmare

firebolt

You should feel proud! NO just gets easier and easier to say! (((HUGS)))

SparkleKitty

These "little nightmares" are part of the progressive condition of alcoholism. Without a lifelong commitment to recovery, things will only deteriorate, making this as good as it gets.

atalose

It’s been my experience that those little nightmare instances begin to over shadow the when it’s good it’s great. I also came to learn and understand that my definition of “good” was not anywhere near normal good but rather a lowered, much lower version of any expectation of normal love, commitment, respect or mutual caring. My standards lowed as his addiction progressed. Or as we say, accepted crumbs along the way.

AnvilheadII

one week ago he was also drunk and "lost" somewhere:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ugh-times.html (Tough times)

i hope when you say "taxi home" you mean HIS home, not yours. you do NOT need to be tending to a drunk, again. that too sends the wrong message.....

Mango blast

This is a very counter-intuitive illness. Would we expect someone with dementia to navigate the world and remember conversations? No.

Helping those suffering from alcoholism often entails stepping out of the way, turning things over to professionals ...911 operators, police, hospitals, mental health units and addiction specialists. This is both for the alcoholic and for us. I'm so thankful for all these people who've been there to help our family.

Prayer is powerful. Praying for eyes to see, ears to hear and strength to embrace the illogical. Alcoholism is a family disease that hurts all of us. It is cunning, baffling and completely illogical. Recovery happens for many people every day... it is also illogical. Some people see all the worse in the world, others see a world full of beauty. All illogical.

I'm sorry you're hurting. I'm glad you're here. (((Hugs)))

KTF

Mango blast

How are you doing today?

Upsidedown23

Not too bad thanks, I’ve been really sick the last couple days and he’s actually been a god send. He went and got some groceries, watched my kid while I took a nap etc, I was really grateful to have him around when I needed him