But they do. They can say what a b***** we are and can continue drinking. They can also tell all who will listen how crazy we are. Disengagement is the only way.
When you're lashing out at an active alcoholic you're really just talking to a bottle. Alcoholics live in various shades of a blackout with shades of gray. Their anger and lies are about fighting anything that comes between them and their drug of choice. This is a mental illness characterized by extreme compulsion to drink. I say this as a recovering alcoholic (26 years) who essentially missed the 1980's. My best friend knows my story better than I do.