qtpi

Finally had my day in court- after 18 months out. Now we are in the legal process of dividing assets. More sticky wickets- not straightforward, more bumps in the road, and more legal fees. Ugh! I have had some email exchanges with XAH- and that is upsetting after months of no contact. I know this will end someday- the house is on the market. Lousy time to try to sell with holidays and all but maybe it will sell soon. Just venting I guess. On the plus side, I had a date today with a very attractive, intelligent, interesting man. I hope for a second date.

Seren

I hope the house sells quickly and that it is the last piece, qtpi. This must all seem like slooooowwwwwwlly pulling the bandaid off. Just that final little bit to go.

FeelingGreat

Keep your expectations low about the length of time it will take to finalise your divorce so you won't be disappointed.

You can have high expectations about the guy though

dandylion

I haven't spoken to my first husband for years.....and, if I did, I know very well that it would be upsetting. He is not capable of a conversation that is not critical and condescending. Even though I can handle myself with him....it still blows a cold wind across the savanna of my tranquility....

hopeful4

I hope the house sells quickly and you are able to get through this process quickly. It's horrible when you have peace with no contact but there are times you are forced to have contact. Ugh. I get it.

We support you friend!

Mango blast

How are you doing today?

((((Hugs))))

qtpi

Slowly pulling the bandaid off! I have gotten a couple of emails from him that seem a bit off. I wonder if he is having mental problems. He is picking his mail up at the post office once a week instead of his house and asked me not to send any more "secure emails." I don't know what he means by that. I can't imagine why he is picking up the mail once a week unless he is paranoid someone is stealing it. If he had moved out, he would leave a forwarding address. Also, I have sent two emails two days in a row, asking him to clarify something about an account- a simple yes or no question. and I have not received a response. So I sent the email to his lawyer and I will keep sending it until I get a response. I know this disease can make you crazy but... well he seemed to have it together before.
I have an appointment to start dividing the assets scheduled. I have to send some paperwork to my lawyer to start the division of the pensions. The house is on the market. Fingers crossed- it sells quickly and without bumps and I can find myself a new home. Thanks for asking.
I am still codependent. I talked all about him first- then only a little about me.LOL.

firebolt

I hope finalizing everything is as quick and painless for you as possible!