I’m done
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Originally Posted by Challenger2013 
I can always hope. But so many times in the past those hopes were dashed. And she doesn’t get that.
However, I do have hope in other areas of my life. I hope for a better life when I am not legally or financially tied to another person who has so little regard for me; hope that I will no longer be blamed for his drinking (actually I am sure I will be blamed, but I won't have to get the daily news about how I caused it); hope that I will eventually meet someone who can appreciate my good qualities.
Have you looked into divorcecare? It is a separation/divorce support class. (I only know because I recently read about it myself).
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This...
“Then she stated that since the Child Endangerment charge was dropped by the District Attorney then “it never happened”.”
tells you just how very, very far she is from any meaningful recovery.
Not drinking (or saying she’s not drinking while sneaking drinks) is not recovery.
Be very, very careful in relying on what she says during these separation negotiations. Once it becomes apparent that this is real this time and her former tactics aren’t going to work, she may turn on you completely. I know lawyers are insanely expensive, but negotiating with an active alcoholic is usually meaningless.
“Then she stated that since the Child Endangerment charge was dropped by the District Attorney then “it never happened”.”
tells you just how very, very far she is from any meaningful recovery.
Not drinking (or saying she’s not drinking while sneaking drinks) is not recovery.
Be very, very careful in relying on what she says during these separation negotiations. Once it becomes apparent that this is real this time and her former tactics aren’t going to work, she may turn on you completely. I know lawyers are insanely expensive, but negotiating with an active alcoholic is usually meaningless.
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Originally Posted by Ariesagain
This...
“Then she stated that since the Child Endangerment charge was dropped by the District Attorney then “it never happened”.”
tells you just how very, very far she is from any meaningful recovery.
Not drinking (or saying she’s not drinking while sneaking drinks) is not recovery.
Be very, very careful in relying on what she says during these separation negotiations. Once it becomes apparent that this is real this time and her former tactics aren’t going to work, she may turn on you completely. I know lawyers are insanely expensive, but negotiating with an active alcoholic is usually meaningless.
“Then she stated that since the Child Endangerment charge was dropped by the District Attorney then “it never happened”.”
tells you just how very, very far she is from any meaningful recovery.
Not drinking (or saying she’s not drinking while sneaking drinks) is not recovery.
Be very, very careful in relying on what she says during these separation negotiations. Once it becomes apparent that this is real this time and her former tactics aren’t going to work, she may turn on you completely. I know lawyers are insanely expensive, but negotiating with an active alcoholic is usually meaningless.
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I haven’t posted in a while, but I have been reading. I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas!
We almost had to cancel the family celebrations on Christmas morning. STBXAW was throwing up and still hung over from Saturday night. She didn’t think she could get all the food ready by noon.
But somehow she managed to.
But DS11 (today is his birthday!) still had a great Christmas and birthday.
Her first concern though was whether or not I would inform my lawyer about the relapse. Selfish as always, even though she accuses me of being the selfish one.
We almost had to cancel the family celebrations on Christmas morning. STBXAW was throwing up and still hung over from Saturday night. She didn’t think she could get all the food ready by noon.
But somehow she managed to.
But DS11 (today is his birthday!) still had a great Christmas and birthday.
Her first concern though was whether or not I would inform my lawyer about the relapse. Selfish as always, even though she accuses me of being the selfish one.
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Originally Posted by Challenger2013
Her first concern though was whether or not I would inform my lawyer about the relapse. Selfish as always, even though she accuses me of being the selfish one.
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Originally Posted by DontRemember
writing that out reminded me of a night my exAgf left her sick 10yr old with her mother,so she could go on our date and stayed at my place that night..WOW!
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Originally Posted by Challenger2013
I haven’t posted in a while, but I have been reading. I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas!
We almost had to cancel the family celebrations on Christmas morning. STBXAW was throwing up and still hung over from Saturday night. She didn’t think she could get all the food ready by noon.
But somehow she managed to.
But DS11 (today is his birthday!) still had a great Christmas and birthday.
Her first concern though was whether or not I would inform my lawyer about the relapse. Selfish as always, even though she accuses me of being the selfish one.
We almost had to cancel the family celebrations on Christmas morning. STBXAW was throwing up and still hung over from Saturday night. She didn’t think she could get all the food ready by noon.
But somehow she managed to.
But DS11 (today is his birthday!) still had a great Christmas and birthday.
Her first concern though was whether or not I would inform my lawyer about the relapse. Selfish as always, even though she accuses me of being the selfish one.
Glad to see you still around.
COD
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