The Other Day...

Old 11-05-2017, 12:25 PM
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The Other Day...

We had a family meeting earlier this week since he hadn't had a chance to talk with them yet.

He admitted to the kids that he was an alcoholic and needed to get help. Made it clear that it was his fault.

This was huge for him, but so far they're just words. I'm still moving out but at this point I have no clue what will happen after that.

Sometimes I feel hopeful, but sometimes I get this sense that it's false hope.
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Old 11-05-2017, 12:40 PM
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Go ahead with your plan, Cantisaurus.
He will get sober or not whether you are not there or not.
Good luck and good thoughts.
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Stay your course, and allow him to find his. Sending you strength, patience, and courage.
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Old 11-06-2017, 01:36 PM
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It's good he verbalized/admitted it.

I struggle with the same thing. I just have to keep remembering - him moving out is me taking control of my life, and I don't know what the future holds... I hope he gets help, but I can't be there to enable him anymore if he doesn't. I just have to focus on being happy, removing the negativity from my life.
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It's not fun being around a drunk that is detoxing.

There is no golden ticket that he won't relapse. Continue with your plans and hope for the best.
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Old 11-08-2017, 03:28 AM
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Definitely keep moving forward with your plans, good start from him but this is very early days and the future/his recovery is still very much uncertain.

I was taken in by my AH proclamations- it hasn’t turned out so well for us/him and we’ve been apart now since January- I was riddled with guilt and doubt at the time but I am now SO SO glad that I pursued the separation as much more has been revealed in that time.

It’s painful but progress will be made
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