Alcoholic Brother
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Alcoholic Brother
Hello everyone, this is my first post and i am looking for some advice on what to do regarding my alcoholic brother. He is 43 years old and has been an alcoholic all of his adult life. A few months ago he went to the hospital because he was having trouble breathing and his stomach was very bloated. He had a fluid in his stomach that needed to be drained and the dr said he had beginning stages of cirrhosis of the liver. He has not stopped drinking and his stomach is bloated again.
He will not go to the hospital or let any of my family come to see him. Yet he emails and texts us that we are not there for him and he is going to die. I am not sure what to do as he refuses to get help or let any of us take him to the hospital. He says just leave me alone.
Thank you for any advice
Jenna
He will not go to the hospital or let any of my family come to see him. Yet he emails and texts us that we are not there for him and he is going to die. I am not sure what to do as he refuses to get help or let any of us take him to the hospital. He says just leave me alone.
Thank you for any advice
Jenna
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Jenna...this is just me...others may disagree with me....
I would go see him, anyway. The whole family go and see him...(no preannouncements).
I would call AA and ask if they would do a "twelfth step" with him.....
I would go see him, anyway. The whole family go and see him...(no preannouncements).
I would call AA and ask if they would do a "twelfth step" with him.....
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Thank you both for your replys. I keep trying to see him without even bringing up his health but he lives in an apartment and won't buzz me in if he is in a bad state. I'm thinking I need to call someone to do a wellness check or something.
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Jenna...if it were me, I would ask management to let you into his apartment, as his life is in peril and you need to check on him.....
He probably would rather let you in, after a couple of episodes of that, than have management nosing around....
He probably would rather let you in, after a couple of episodes of that, than have management nosing around....
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Jenna, have you tried alanon? I think you can use some face to face support.
There is nothing you can do if an addict chooses to still use, it is not against the law to drink yourself to death, As much as we try to stop them. I am sorry to be so cold, but it is out of your control
Pray for him and seek support for yourself. I'm sorry hugs!!
There is nothing you can do if an addict chooses to still use, it is not against the law to drink yourself to death, As much as we try to stop them. I am sorry to be so cold, but it is out of your control
Pray for him and seek support for yourself. I'm sorry hugs!!
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Possibly try welfare checks by text if he won't let you in. As long as he's willing to answer, at least you know he's alive. If he stops answering you might have to call the police.
Sorry for the distressing situation. I wish you could get him to take care of himself, but he's an adult, choosing his own way.
Sorry for the distressing situation. I wish you could get him to take care of himself, but he's an adult, choosing his own way.
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