Just stopping by to say "hey"
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Just stopping by to say "hey"
Hi everyone - it's been quite sometime, not sure where to start.
Hard to believe it has almost been 7 months since my husband was hospitalized. Hard to believe he is celebrating 7 months of sobriety WITH a sponsor and going thru the steps.....he is working since late March.
Our girls, they are growing like weeds! With all they had been thru the last part of 2016 and early 2017 they both managed to finish out the school year with A/B honor roll! First time for the youngest and the first time all year for my teen. We are incredibly proud of them - this family has been thru it....
Me - well I am doing okay I guess. I have my moments, certainly a work in progress. Just as home life was "settling" down in late Jan/Feb my work like remained a nightmare. In mid March we were moved from the hostile work environment and the last week of June the trouble maker was finally terminated! That was a relief but there are still problems. Our HR department is working hard to smooth out the transition for our small group. At home I can still be somewhat of a tyrant. Still living with fear (*sigh*). I just steal the fun out of things. I have seen my doctor recently for not feeling well - all blood work came back fine. She is aware if our issues since last May and told me that thru all of this my body was probably running off of adrenaline. Now that things have "calmed" down my body is tired. She said our mind and bodies are not made to handle all this stress and at some point you have to rest. She was right - I am exhausted. So I am back to my daily readings, back to my morning walks, back to my meetings. The meetings are becoming harder for me to attend with my youngest in cheer but I am slowly working around the conflicts. I do have another appointment with my GP next week to discuss my anxiety, which my specialist thinks I suffer from on a daily, so we shall see what he has to say.
To add to the anxiety we found out last week that my husband has throat cancer. He sees the oncologist next week to discuss treatment. He was told that is an inch long and after looking up "causes" on line bullet #3 read : "excessive alcohol use".......oddly when he found out he mentioned that it was probably from all the alcohol he drank.
Aside from that we are just taking this life we have one day at a time.... sometimes one minute at a time.
I hope you are all well!
Take care
~Triggers
Hard to believe it has almost been 7 months since my husband was hospitalized. Hard to believe he is celebrating 7 months of sobriety WITH a sponsor and going thru the steps.....he is working since late March.
Our girls, they are growing like weeds! With all they had been thru the last part of 2016 and early 2017 they both managed to finish out the school year with A/B honor roll! First time for the youngest and the first time all year for my teen. We are incredibly proud of them - this family has been thru it....
Me - well I am doing okay I guess. I have my moments, certainly a work in progress. Just as home life was "settling" down in late Jan/Feb my work like remained a nightmare. In mid March we were moved from the hostile work environment and the last week of June the trouble maker was finally terminated! That was a relief but there are still problems. Our HR department is working hard to smooth out the transition for our small group. At home I can still be somewhat of a tyrant. Still living with fear (*sigh*). I just steal the fun out of things. I have seen my doctor recently for not feeling well - all blood work came back fine. She is aware if our issues since last May and told me that thru all of this my body was probably running off of adrenaline. Now that things have "calmed" down my body is tired. She said our mind and bodies are not made to handle all this stress and at some point you have to rest. She was right - I am exhausted. So I am back to my daily readings, back to my morning walks, back to my meetings. The meetings are becoming harder for me to attend with my youngest in cheer but I am slowly working around the conflicts. I do have another appointment with my GP next week to discuss my anxiety, which my specialist thinks I suffer from on a daily, so we shall see what he has to say.
To add to the anxiety we found out last week that my husband has throat cancer. He sees the oncologist next week to discuss treatment. He was told that is an inch long and after looking up "causes" on line bullet #3 read : "excessive alcohol use".......oddly when he found out he mentioned that it was probably from all the alcohol he drank.
Aside from that we are just taking this life we have one day at a time.... sometimes one minute at a time.
I hope you are all well!
Take care
~Triggers
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Knowthetriggers....I am so glad to hear from you and to know that your family situation has settled down in some important ways.
I am hoping for the best possible outcome for your husbands medical situation.
I, personally, know of two people who had throat cancer and have been cancer free for way more that 5years...
I will be thinking about you and your family.....
I am hoping for the best possible outcome for your husbands medical situation.
I, personally, know of two people who had throat cancer and have been cancer free for way more that 5years...
I will be thinking about you and your family.....
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ktt, thanks so much for the update! I'm glad to hear that there is progress on a couple of different fronts, although the hub's health concerns must be a tad scary...
I wish both of you health, happiness, peace and continued growth!
I wish both of you health, happiness, peace and continued growth!
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It's great to hear from you!
I am glad things are going well for your husband and children. Just don't let yourself slip between the cracks friend! You deserve some R&R as well.
What a shame that he has throat cancer, but it is quite a statement that he admitted it's likely from drinking. Glad he is on a good path and pray he stays on it.
Take care!!!
I am glad things are going well for your husband and children. Just don't let yourself slip between the cracks friend! You deserve some R&R as well.
What a shame that he has throat cancer, but it is quite a statement that he admitted it's likely from drinking. Glad he is on a good path and pray he stays on it.
Take care!!!
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Hey, ktt, good to hear from you!
I was just diagnosed with lung cancer--probably from the smoking I did. But you know what? NOBODY "deserves" cancer, and there are so many factors that contribute it's impossible to say whether a particular person got it from drinking/smoking or something else--genetics, etc. Thankfully, mine was caught very early during a screening and I had surgery to remove half my left lung about three weeks ago. I'm feeling great and more than likely won't even need chemo. I hope his turns out to be treatable and he can go on to be one of the long-term survivors--there are more and more of us every year!
I was just diagnosed with lung cancer--probably from the smoking I did. But you know what? NOBODY "deserves" cancer, and there are so many factors that contribute it's impossible to say whether a particular person got it from drinking/smoking or something else--genetics, etc. Thankfully, mine was caught very early during a screening and I had surgery to remove half my left lung about three weeks ago. I'm feeling great and more than likely won't even need chemo. I hope his turns out to be treatable and he can go on to be one of the long-term survivors--there are more and more of us every year!
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Thanks for all the "hello's" and well wishes! I really miss you guys and wish I had more time to check in but sometimes real life gets in the way, especially now with his crazy work hours and me being primary to the girls and my work - we keep moving for sure.
I am so worried about this cancer - he seems very tired lately; however, it could be because his body is also playing "catch up". I mean he abused it so badly for so long and then he didn't work for 7 months. Well when he was finally getting better he did everything around the house to stay busy, including tending to the girls and all their appointments and stuff but that didn't pay the bills. His work is no where near what he was doing and the money was cut in half, that bites, but it's work and he seems to enjoy not being stressed out like he was at his previous employment. I don't miss his old work either (well the money maybe but money is not happiness). I saw what happened to him moving in like a freight train - I warned him - all the red flags and bells were blowing; but hey, it all happened for a reason, right...
In fact when I was telling my dad about my husband's cancer I said "Ya know what dad? Had RAH not had that perforated hole in his stomach that almost killed him 2 months ago he would have never had this follow up appointment to check the progress from his surgery. So it was meant to be that he needed emergency surgery so they could do the follow up appointment and find the cancer. I mean what other explanation is there.....right!" LOL, he agreed and said that sure was a different way of looking at it all!
I am so worried about this cancer - he seems very tired lately; however, it could be because his body is also playing "catch up". I mean he abused it so badly for so long and then he didn't work for 7 months. Well when he was finally getting better he did everything around the house to stay busy, including tending to the girls and all their appointments and stuff but that didn't pay the bills. His work is no where near what he was doing and the money was cut in half, that bites, but it's work and he seems to enjoy not being stressed out like he was at his previous employment. I don't miss his old work either (well the money maybe but money is not happiness). I saw what happened to him moving in like a freight train - I warned him - all the red flags and bells were blowing; but hey, it all happened for a reason, right...
In fact when I was telling my dad about my husband's cancer I said "Ya know what dad? Had RAH not had that perforated hole in his stomach that almost killed him 2 months ago he would have never had this follow up appointment to check the progress from his surgery. So it was meant to be that he needed emergency surgery so they could do the follow up appointment and find the cancer. I mean what other explanation is there.....right!" LOL, he agreed and said that sure was a different way of looking at it all!
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