I'm supposed to get divorced tomorrow
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I'm supposed to get divorced tomorrow
I'm not sure if it will happen. I can't get AH to sign papers. He was fine with the divorce & all of the agreements my lawyer had in the documents. He said he didn't want to go to court. He doesn't have a lawyer so my lawyer said if he signed everything she can bring it to court & he didn't have to go.
Even though this is so hard, I just want this marriage to be over.
I also wish I wasn't going to be dependent on his support. I was raising kids so here I am with a low paying job & I can't pay for mortgage nor college tuition for the kids. His drinking is getting worse & he's been blacking out. It will probably be soon that he will lose his job. So even though I will eventually be divorced, if he loses his job I won't be able to pay tuition AND mortgage.
So, now I will be still worrying & having anxiety that he will keep his job & pay me support.
Even though this is so hard, I just want this marriage to be over.
I also wish I wasn't going to be dependent on his support. I was raising kids so here I am with a low paying job & I can't pay for mortgage nor college tuition for the kids. His drinking is getting worse & he's been blacking out. It will probably be soon that he will lose his job. So even though I will eventually be divorced, if he loses his job I won't be able to pay tuition AND mortgage.
So, now I will be still worrying & having anxiety that he will keep his job & pay me support.
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I also wanted to add that I've been working hard on improving my life. I've been eating right, working out, being social, etc.
But today the depression has hit me hard. I feel so doomed and worthless. I know this is just temporary. But I hate feeling like this.
But today the depression has hit me hard. I feel so doomed and worthless. I know this is just temporary. But I hate feeling like this.
Hate so much you are going thru this - it's so hard to go thru a divorce
Good for you in taking steps to keep you healthy mentally emotionally & physically
Give yourself time to grieve - it's a loss and you need time to heal.
Sending you strength courage & wisdom.
Pink hugs. (Hope unity gratitude & serenity)
Good for you in taking steps to keep you healthy mentally emotionally & physically
Give yourself time to grieve - it's a loss and you need time to heal.
Sending you strength courage & wisdom.
Pink hugs. (Hope unity gratitude & serenity)
Hi Trying, you're so level headed I'm sure you'll succeed in your goals. I think you're right in predicting you can't rely on him financially forever, and I would work on that premise so if he does crash and burn you'll be ready.
There's a lot of info out there on living frugally and saving. Get yourself an ICE fund, not for ice, but In Case of Emergency. You'll feel so much more secure.
Great that you came online and posted rather than sitting there feeling miserable.
There's a lot of info out there on living frugally and saving. Get yourself an ICE fund, not for ice, but In Case of Emergency. You'll feel so much more secure.
Great that you came online and posted rather than sitting there feeling miserable.
Hi Trying, you're so level headed I'm sure you'll succeed in your goals. I think you're right in predicting you can't rely on him financially forever, and I would work on that premise so if he does crash and burn you'll be ready.
There's a lot of info out there on living frugally and saving. Get yourself an ICE fund, not for ice, but In Case of Emergency. You'll feel so much more secure.
Great that you came online and posted rather than sitting there feeling miserable.
There's a lot of info out there on living frugally and saving. Get yourself an ICE fund, not for ice, but In Case of Emergency. You'll feel so much more secure.
Great that you came online and posted rather than sitting there feeling miserable.
Good luck today!
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Ok. It's over. He showed up to court. Smell of alcohol on him. I don't think he was drinking but I think it's just his smell now.
I feel so defeated & sad but now I can finally start on the next step.
I'm taking to heart everything everyone is saying. I'm going to work on not relying on his support.
I feel so defeated & sad but now I can finally start on the next step.
I'm taking to heart everything everyone is saying. I'm going to work on not relying on his support.
I'm glad he showed up, in whatever condition, so it's over. You might feel a bit weird or at loose ends for a time, but my bet is that now that this chapter is over you will start feeling stronger and free-er soon.
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