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Originally Posted by Ladybird579 
Is this the sort of thing you would post to a woman who is married to an alcoholic?
Yes. I say it a lot on here. I did leave 10k behind. In fact I lost a whole lot more...nearer 400k and that was from a marriage not just a job. You can get a new job if you want too but if you'd rather stay and suck up the continuing drama and abuse for 10k then carry on. Am not sure why you posted cos people have given you good advice and you have dissed it and come off as a bit rude tbh.
Yes. I say it a lot on here. I did leave 10k behind. In fact I lost a whole lot more...nearer 400k and that was from a marriage not just a job. You can get a new job if you want too but if you'd rather stay and suck up the continuing drama and abuse for 10k then carry on. Am not sure why you posted cos people have given you good advice and you have dissed it and come off as a bit rude tbh.
Something that I'd always been encouraged to do on this forum.
Coming off a bit rude tbh is just how I viewed the post I replied to from Maudcat but rudeness can be subjective. My reply was challenging and to the point imo. I thought Maudcats post was the same. I'm sure Maudcat meant that best though. There's a lot of wisdom here at SR.
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Originally Posted by maia1234
Ugh!!
After living with an addict and that behavior daily, If I could walk I would. SB, you are worth so much more then the abuse he gives you. You never know what is out there, look around.
In my mind mental stability means more to me then financial.
Hugs my friend, keep attending Alanon as you need it.
After living with an addict and that behavior daily, If I could walk I would. SB, you are worth so much more then the abuse he gives you. You never know what is out there, look around.
In my mind mental stability means more to me then financial.
Hugs my friend, keep attending Alanon as you need it.
You are right of course, and if I could just walk away believe me I would but it's too soon right now.
It's a process .
I've left emotionally and leaving psychically will follow. 25 years is a long time but detachment has happened now in my head
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
so you posted about a problem in your life,with your boss....but you state you have no plans to LEAVE your place of employments......i guess i missed what the point was then? obviously not advice....
however i must say that it is quite REASONABLE for someone to suggest that staying in such a toxic environment is NOT healthy. a job is not a marriage.
have you started looking for other employment? getting those ducks in a row?
however i must say that it is quite REASONABLE for someone to suggest that staying in such a toxic environment is NOT healthy. a job is not a marriage.
have you started looking for other employment? getting those ducks in a row?
I was not after advice and I didn't ask for any.
The business may go under really soon and yes I have been looking for jobs but it was three days ago and I work in a specialist field so Rome wasn't built in a day unfortunately.
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Hey, fair enough. In my own experience a lot of folks who come here feel they CAN'T leave because of the economics of the situation. Apparently that's not the case with you--you are making a considered decision to remain at this point. And that's your privilege--it might not be the decision *I* would make, but as I noted before, it's your life and you get to call the shots.
Hope this gets resolved sooner rather than later--it really does sound like a miserable work situation.
Hope this gets resolved sooner rather than later--it really does sound like a miserable work situation.
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Originally Posted by LexieCat
Hey, fair enough. In my own experience a lot of folks who come here feel they CAN'T leave because of the economics of the situation. Apparently that's not the case with you--you are making a considered decision to remain at this point. And that's your privilege--it might not be the decision *I* would make, but as I noted before, it's your life and you get to call the shots.
Hope this gets resolved sooner rather than later--it really does sound like a miserable work situation.
Hope this gets resolved sooner rather than later--it really does sound like a miserable work situation.
I hope so too. I just can't leave immediately or I would. It's a tragic scene to witness and draining too.
I'm handing this to a higher power as it says in the Al anon steps right now . I do believe in that .
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Weighing in here, a bit late,.
Spookyboo, I apologize for my hasty, ill-considered response.
It was not my intent to offend.
Clearly, I am not familiar with how unemployment compensation in the UK works.
Best of luck to you.
Spookyboo, I apologize for my hasty, ill-considered response.
It was not my intent to offend.
Clearly, I am not familiar with how unemployment compensation in the UK works.
Best of luck to you.
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if you were my friend or my kid and had "vented" the same thing, my most immediate response would still be to stay - oh honey, get OUT of there, that's just crazy, AND illegal as hell, i am worried for your safety, sanity and any potential legal jeopardy!!
so i wasn't saying anything to you i wouldn't say to a real life person that i was close to!!!
so if you must stay, well then best of luck - try to stay out of his way, make sure the drugs aren't in your area at all and that you don't join in and do them. keep looking for the next step, think outside the box, refine your budget, keep expenses down, and savings up. here's to better days ahead!
so i wasn't saying anything to you i wouldn't say to a real life person that i was close to!!!
so if you must stay, well then best of luck - try to stay out of his way, make sure the drugs aren't in your area at all and that you don't join in and do them. keep looking for the next step, think outside the box, refine your budget, keep expenses down, and savings up. here's to better days ahead!
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Originally Posted by Maudcat
Weighing in here, a bit late,.
Spookyboo, I apologize for my hasty, ill-considered response.
It was not my intent to offend.
Clearly, I am not familiar with how unemployment compensation in the UK works.
Best of luck to you.
Spookyboo, I apologize for my hasty, ill-considered response.
It was not my intent to offend.
Clearly, I am not familiar with how unemployment compensation in the UK works.
Best of luck to you.
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
if you were my friend or my kid and had "vented" the same thing, my most immediate response would still be to stay - oh honey, get OUT of there, that's just crazy, AND illegal as hell, i am worried for your safety, sanity and any potential legal jeopardy!!
so i wasn't saying anything to you i wouldn't say to a real life person that i was close to!!!
so if you must stay, well then best of luck - try to stay out of his way, make sure the drugs aren't in your area at all and that you don't join in and do them. keep looking for the next step, think outside the box, refine your budget, keep expenses down, and savings up. here's to better days ahead!
so i wasn't saying anything to you i wouldn't say to a real life person that i was close to!!!
so if you must stay, well then best of luck - try to stay out of his way, make sure the drugs aren't in your area at all and that you don't join in and do them. keep looking for the next step, think outside the box, refine your budget, keep expenses down, and savings up. here's to better days ahead!
I don't do coke.
People just chat **** and invite you on holiday with them like they're your new best friend then it's never mentioned again
I work in the entertainment industry and it's totally common place.
It's boring and old!
I'm grateful for everyones support here over the years. Thanks for your good wishes
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Weighing in here, a bit late,. (Company for dinner, and, dang it, they get annoyed when I text at table. Can you imagine?)
Spookyboo, I apologize for my ill-considered response.
It was not my intent to offend.
Clearly, I am not familiar with how unemployment (redundancy?) compensation in the UK works.
Best of luck to you.
Spookyboo, I apologize for my ill-considered response.
It was not my intent to offend.
Clearly, I am not familiar with how unemployment (redundancy?) compensation in the UK works.
Best of luck to you.
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