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Originally Posted by Seren 
Hello Rotzy! Great picture in your gear...were you able to get out much this past fall and this spring to hunt?
This year's hunting will be much of the same. I will have time but, that time is needed for a surgery I desperately need. My moving out has placed that surgery on hold. I have told AH that I need this surgery and him to show some consideration and he could never look past himself. Alcoholism is such a selfish act and I just can't count on him. That hurts so much because I was there for him and I was left high and dry. I need my foot fixed. I have a bunion and I'm in pain every single day. It's like walking on a broken foot and I'm on my feet all day long! The recovery is a 3 month recovery for me because my Dr says that I need to be able to run due to my job. This foot affects every aspect of my life and my hobbies. I can not logically get it done, pay my bills, recover and come out better if I have no time. So, I keep putting my bad foot in front of the other.
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This is what my foot looks like. The day I left, on April 25th, I had received an injection that numbs it for a very short time. That was the day he called me a POS for taking our granddaughter home early because I didn't feel good. It hurt. I was done chasing her. He told me I robbed him of 2 hours because I saw he was having fun with her and she was laughing.
I needed surgery 2 years ago but I couldn't because I had put his needs and wants in front of mine. He'd of never let me rest and I know this because he had me up on my feet being his bitch 2 days after I had my gall bladder out. I told him I would not get my foot done in fear that he'd have me on my feet! Here I am, in pain every single day and on my own. He's trying to use my medical condition to get me home because he knows I will need someone to help me and I told him, I will take care of myself when I get it done. I have no one to count on but myself. That's pretty freakin scary but I've never intentionally hurt myself and going it alone will be a lot better than putting my life at risk with someone who can't look past his own nose.
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I needed surgery 2 years ago but I couldn't because I had put his needs and wants in front of mine. He'd of never let me rest and I know this because he had me up on my feet being his bitch 2 days after I had my gall bladder out. I told him I would not get my foot done in fear that he'd have me on my feet! Here I am, in pain every single day and on my own. He's trying to use my medical condition to get me home because he knows I will need someone to help me and I told him, I will take care of myself when I get it done. I have no one to count on but myself. That's pretty freakin scary but I've never intentionally hurt myself and going it alone will be a lot better than putting my life at risk with someone who can't look past his own nose.
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That even LOOKS painful.
I have a nerve problem with one of my feet (Morton's neuroma--self-diagnosed), and from what I hear, even surgery is unlikely to be effective. I'm putting up with it for now, but at some point I may have to consider doing something. I hope you're able to get some relief. I fortunately (or unfortunately--I should be getting more exercise) don't have to spend a lot of time on my feet. But if you do, it seems well worth getting it taken care of.
I have a nerve problem with one of my feet (Morton's neuroma--self-diagnosed), and from what I hear, even surgery is unlikely to be effective. I'm putting up with it for now, but at some point I may have to consider doing something. I hope you're able to get some relief. I fortunately (or unfortunately--I should be getting more exercise) don't have to spend a lot of time on my feet. But if you do, it seems well worth getting it taken care of.
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I walk a lot at work. I'm on my feet all day long. I'm a Corrections Officer and my first 2 hours of work can only be described as controlled chaos! Add in rounds up and down steps every 20 minutes, 30 minutes or hour depending upon which block I am on. If I'm on an outside post, I'm standing on concrete all day long, walking miles around the yards making sure no one kills somebody, working the chow hall. It's not an easy job! I have some time that I can not anticipate until I turn over. Then every week, I get an hour of sick time. Any over time I work gets put onto Comp time. I just don't have enough to go out for the 3 month recovery. I have to be able to run. If I had an office job, it would be 6 weeks. What I have thought about is going out for 6 and being able to walk on it and going light duty. I still don't have the time to cover the 6 weeks though. If AH would have don what he always promised, I could get it done but I'm always the one who has taken the back seat. I just have to deal with it.
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Originally Posted by BoxinRotz
Everything I did when I stayed in the home with AH never worked. The threats, bargains, deals, coping... It was never enough until I left. Even the last chance in March when I had an apartment and ready to move wasn't enough. But this last time on April 25th, when he called me a POS and told me to f off and I did, he got sober. Took him a week to get there but I'm still gone and he's still sober.
I'm giving it a year away. If he can not stay sober, we'll be divorcing and it'll be over and he knows it. He's got to hit his one year walk alone before we can think about us. It's the only thing I have never truly embraced. He wants trust where there has never really been any. The ball is in his court and I'm watching.
I'm giving it a year away. If he can not stay sober, we'll be divorcing and it'll be over and he knows it. He's got to hit his one year walk alone before we can think about us. It's the only thing I have never truly embraced. He wants trust where there has never really been any. The ball is in his court and I'm watching.
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These next 3 months are going to be rough. I am picking up a rocking swivel chair with an ottoman today for $40. I told the woman I appreciate it so much because I'm starting over. She sent me a message yesterday telling me that if I need anything else from her junk pile, she would give it to me since I have nothing. I'll be leaving here in an hour to meet her.
I believe God puts people in our lives for a reason and I'm grateful for her generous offer.
I believe God puts people in our lives for a reason and I'm grateful for her generous offer.
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Box, I don't know if you have FreeCycle in your area, but maybe give it a look. I signed up last fall and one of the things I got was a queen-size memory foam mattress FOR FREE. I also asked for junk garden hose to use to slow water erosion in my gravel driveway, and in addition to some junk hose, I got a whole bunch of really, really nice garden hose! Can't believe what some folks are giving away, but I guess it's stuff they don't have a use for.
It's an online forum and the deal is that you can post to offer anything but CANNOT ask for money, barter, etc. Has to be FREE, hence the snappy name. You can also post and ask for things you need. In my neck of the woods, I have seen everything from utter junk (or so it seems to me) to things that the owner could certainly have sold for a fair chunk of change but chose instead to offer free. I've both given and received, and in my experience, it's a great way to both get stuff you need for free and keep useful things out of the landfill...
It's an online forum and the deal is that you can post to offer anything but CANNOT ask for money, barter, etc. Has to be FREE, hence the snappy name. You can also post and ask for things you need. In my neck of the woods, I have seen everything from utter junk (or so it seems to me) to things that the owner could certainly have sold for a fair chunk of change but chose instead to offer free. I've both given and received, and in my experience, it's a great way to both get stuff you need for free and keep useful things out of the landfill...
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Kicking my X alcoholic out was great for my health. I finally had the money to get my teeth fixed. When I was married we never had the money for me or the kids to go to the dentist because it was more important that he spend all the money on alcohol and drugs...
It's nearly 5 years free of him now. I am NEVER short of money now! I can go to the Dr or dentist whenever I need to. I even have SAVINGS!
It's nearly 5 years free of him now. I am NEVER short of money now! I can go to the Dr or dentist whenever I need to. I even have SAVINGS!
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We went out to eat with the baby for her birthday. On the way home, he was talking about his money n how he could put a roof on. I said, we have a lawyer to pay n a ring payment. He got me a new wedding band and I have to pay for it. I know. He's so sweet! Then he says, I'm not paying those bills because they are yours and you are not living with me. We are not husband n wife so you figure it out! That really hurt me. After all I did to stand beside him at his absolute worst and he's leaving me with debt and I have to pay it because I need my truck refinanced. If I don't make the payments, my credit union may snub me for a 40k loan. It's going to come down to paying bills and eating. I'll get to eat my free meal at work though.
He sent me a text and told me I'm never going to make it without him. That I need to come home because I will NEVER heal myself away n I can only heal with him close to me. Or me close to him.
You know what?! Someone is so full of himself! You know me, I could really tell you all what I think but I don't want banned.
He sent me a text and told me I'm never going to make it without him. That I need to come home because I will NEVER heal myself away n I can only heal with him close to me. Or me close to him.
You know what?! Someone is so full of himself! You know me, I could really tell you all what I think but I don't want banned.
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Originally Posted by Hevyn
I'm glad you're back to posting, Boxy. 
You seem to have a different attitude this time. You see him so clearly now.
You seem to have a different attitude this time. You see him so clearly now.I have huge reservations about that.
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What is it you're waiting for, at this point? I mean, I know you said you were giving it a year, but is there a reason for that? Would it maybe be in your economic interest to get this resolved legally, sooner rather than later?
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Originally Posted by LexieCat
What is it you're waiting for, at this point? I mean, I know you said you were giving it a year, but is there a reason for that? Would it maybe be in your economic interest to get this resolved legally, sooner rather than later?
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