Sasha1972

I don't have any real wisdom to impart, other than saying that this story sounds familiar to me. If you find that you're acting like a person you don't want to be (someone who throws vases and yells), that sounds like a sign that getting away from the relationship, whether it's for a weekend or a month or a year, could help you find your true self again. His relapse was not a minor matter, even if he thinks it was, and you are right to take it seriously.