Anyone ever reconcile after leaving?
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Oh, I feel for you...I was there not too long ago, except I didn't have kids with my AH. (I have kids from a previous relationship). I left my AH a little over a year ago. I got my own apartment. I just couldn't live in the chaos any more. Plus my AH was mean when he drank (not all the time). So I had to leave.
In my situation it hasn't gotten better. He will drink, then quit for at most a week, then back at it again. Alcoholics are in denial if they think they can drink again someday...that the next time will be different...they will be able to control it..this has not happened with my relationship. My advice, do what what is best for your children....give them the best childhood you can. If you divorce/separate that doesn't mean they will not have a relationship with him. He is their dad and will always be their dad...but think about how he is affecting them...that helped me figure things out and move out...
In my situation it hasn't gotten better. He will drink, then quit for at most a week, then back at it again. Alcoholics are in denial if they think they can drink again someday...that the next time will be different...they will be able to control it..this has not happened with my relationship. My advice, do what what is best for your children....give them the best childhood you can. If you divorce/separate that doesn't mean they will not have a relationship with him. He is their dad and will always be their dad...but think about how he is affecting them...that helped me figure things out and move out...
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