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A good date would be the end of the month.
Agreed with the damage done to kids--I grew up with alcoholic,
dated many alcoholics myself ('normal' for me, right?)
Eventually became alcoholic myself. That's how you process pain, right?
The modeling children grow up will seriously dictate their adult actions and feelings.
Wishing you all the best TW. You can do this!
Agreed with the damage done to kids--I grew up with alcoholic,
dated many alcoholics myself ('normal' for me, right?)
Eventually became alcoholic myself. That's how you process pain, right?
The modeling children grow up will seriously dictate their adult actions and feelings.
Wishing you all the best TW. You can do this!
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Yes. I use this term "We" interchangeably with ME way too often...it's a bad habit/years of conditioning. I have continued to sleep on the couch and am Gray Rock at the moment. Picking out a date: will do. Was thinking 2 weeks...was hoping last Thursday was the day but of course I'm not taken seriously.
And my comments about his love and his actions...I was being a smart a$$ basically. I'm a bit angry at myself for ever thinking he would "catch up" to me and see the light or make any real changes for anyone other than himself. He's been acting like a super dad all weekend and it makes me want to scream.
I am so appreciative of all of you here on SR!
And my comments about his love and his actions...I was being a smart a$$ basically. I'm a bit angry at myself for ever thinking he would "catch up" to me and see the light or make any real changes for anyone other than himself. He's been acting like a super dad all weekend and it makes me want to scream.
I am so appreciative of all of you here on SR!
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Well if you told him to leave Thursday and he didn't, what makes you think he will willingly go in two weeks?
If you told him to be out on Thursday and he, "didn't take me seriously," THEN you up the ante. Find a legal way to get him out. You can't keep extending his stay like the Extended Stay hotel chain.
If you told him to be out on Thursday and he, "didn't take me seriously," THEN you up the ante. Find a legal way to get him out. You can't keep extending his stay like the Extended Stay hotel chain.
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Originally Posted by thousandwords53 
Yes I have a legal way to get him out, I was trying not to have to go that route ...but I will. I absolutely will.
This is super hard to do but absolutely essential. Unfortunately he probably isn't going to give up his cozy drinking spot.
Keep posting and we will support you all we can!
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Originally Posted by Maudcat
I think it's going to have to get medieval, TW, as in get the lawyer and the law involved. He doesn't sound like he is going to go easily or quietly. Addicts hate to give up their comforts.
He has gone cold turkey
Overcompensating in parenting
Maybe I didn't make it clear enough to him that this was it. Being quiet and civil obviously didn't get the point across. I will let him know I am serious, to find a place by X date.
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thousandwords.... yeah, you will have to be the agent of change....I doubt that he will go quietly as you would like.....
As I t unfolds, be ready to act swiftly with your safety plan.....
The more prepared you are, the better it will go for you.....
Your courage will arrive just at the moment you need it!
As I t unfolds, be ready to act swiftly with your safety plan.....
The more prepared you are, the better it will go for you.....
Your courage will arrive just at the moment you need it!
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