I think this pretty well sums up recovery for me:
This so describes my toxic work environment right now. A little office full of sick, miserable, unhappy people with psycho owners and I have spent most of my tenure here (10 months) being the "nice one." Now that I am not playing the doormat role, the knives have come out. I need to leave, but I like the money and the flexibility. Does this sound familiar, my codie friends??? Ugh, will I ever learn?!?
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This so describes my toxic work environment right now. A little office full of sick, miserable, unhappy people with psycho owners and I have spent most of my tenure here (10 months) being the "nice one." Now that I am not playing the doormat role, the knives have come out. I need to leave, but I like the money and the flexibility. Does this sound familiar, my codie friends??? Ugh, will I ever learn?!?
I dunno how "codie" it is to hesitate to give up two things you value--money and flexibility. It all depends on your personal priorities. Lots of people work at sucky jobs for similar reasons (though the source of the suckage might vary). If your life outside of work is satisfying then sometimes it's possible to detach from workplace toxicity, too.
(my mantra is 'RDO...RDO...RDO').
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Great post
Taking it further:
Now I walk into a room full of people and could care less whether I like them or not.
I work to take choose my likes or dislikes based on their actions. If you improve my life - here is a like for you. If you bother me I remove myself from your vicinity.
Taking it further:
Now I walk into a room full of people and could care less whether I like them or not.
I work to take choose my likes or dislikes based on their actions. If you improve my life - here is a like for you. If you bother me I remove myself from your vicinity.
Originally Posted by dandylion
fireSprite.....I have read, somewhere, that this is taken from the work of some psychologist (can't remember the name), who said that this is an indication of healthy self esteem....
Taking it further:
Now I walk into a room full of people and could care less whether I like them or not.
I work to take choose my likes or dislikes based on their actions. If you improve my life - here is a like for you. If you bother me I remove myself from your vicinity.
Now I walk into a room full of people and could care less whether I like them or not.
I work to take choose my likes or dislikes based on their actions. If you improve my life - here is a like for you. If you bother me I remove myself from your vicinity.
Every time I've started to question whether I'm isolating or judging, I get such unexpected validation from my HP through all kinds of signs that keep showing me that I am on the right path.
What other people think of me is none of my business, for sure. They aren't walking in my shoes.
You know, as a recovering codie, I SO want my children NOT to be codependents. I'll never forget when my son was pledging a fraternity and he said to me that he started looking around the room and he said to himself, "I don't even like half these people." So, he quit. Very proud moment in this codependent mama's heart!
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Yes, thanks for posting this, it's great! I feel I have some days where I feel that way, but it's also a reminder of what we should all strive for.
I can also reflect back to me feeling the other way and feeling like I needed to get everyone's approval all the time. The times I've felt the other way about it, like I'm in charge of that or that it really doesn't matter, and what really matters is my relationship with myself...It feels so awesome.
I can also reflect back to me feeling the other way and feeling like I needed to get everyone's approval all the time. The times I've felt the other way about it, like I'm in charge of that or that it really doesn't matter, and what really matters is my relationship with myself...It feels so awesome.
How different my life would have been, had I had that kind of self-knowledge and courage in years past--and how different it WILL be since I'm starting to learn those things to use NOW and in the days to come.
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You know, as a recovering codie, I SO want my children NOT to be codependents. I'll never forget when my son was pledging a fraternity and he said to me that he started looking around the room and he said to himself, "I don't even like half these people." So, he quit. Very proud moment in this codependent mama's heart!
Love the quote as well!
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