After the pitty potty post....
 

So after I posted this morning talking about the pitty party my youngest DD was getting ready to leave and she sat in my AH's chair to tie her shoes. She came across one of the small liquor bottles that obviously fell out of his pocket. She thought it was cologne and opened it to smell it and then ran to me with it immediately.

Both girls saw it and both girls were upset. I did not try to cover or hide anything. I told them their dad had a problem and we have to pray for him to make the right choices but the choice has to be his.

With that being said my youngest DD asked me if she could talk to her dad this afternoon. I told her she is more than welcomed to voice her opinion but again, this is dad's choice and we have to pray he makes better choices on his own. She said okay.

My oldest DD was very upset and we had a conversation I had with my youngest DD. I explained that this may be hard but we will all be okay.

He has to leave.....he cannot continue this behavior at home. He has choices but my choice is to NOT be around him or have our children around him while he is intoxicated and drugged.

We sure have a long road of healing ahead of us. I am pretty sure I saw an Alanon meeting that piggy backed an Alateen meeting. Time to get this family back on track, even if it's just the three of us.

Prayers would be greatly appreciated, for the AH as well.

Peace to you all,
KTT

Prayers and hugs, KTT

Prayers to you and your family, and (((HUGS))))

Hope you work things out.
Courage to you.

Hope all 3 of you make that meeting tonight. It sounds like you're starting to put your girls' and your own welfare first.

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Hi, KTT. I've read through some of your posts (too quickly I'm afraid) and I think I've missed it... but is he still actively drinking? Is he in a program for recovery? Is he actively looking for a job? It's hard to tell from what I've read, but in your post above you state he needs to go... is that because he's drinking again and not doing anything towards recovery?

Prayers, hugs and thanks for taking care of your little family the best you can. Just doing this makes a huge difference in our wounded world.

Hey Refiner - not sure where to start but a quick recap - On May 31st he checked himself into the hospital saying he couldn't do it anymore and needed help. Which we all know if the first step. He was in the hospital three days shy of a month. Came home and was doing well, even set up his own therapy appointments. He is not an AA fan so I thought just him taking the initiative to set up the therapist meeting was a mighty big step. He convinced himself he WAS DONE with the drinking.

I can tell you that the support he had at his work was overwhelming although I had a funny feeling they would somehow mark this against him, it was the work environment he was in, but anyway they did support him and allowed him to attend his sessions, no questions. He lost over 50 lbs and started to be a very active participant in our family. He wasn't just "there". The change in him was awesome and the girls loved it as they had never seen this side of him before. I had because he was like this while we were dating and the first year or so of our marriage.

Anyway - something shady happened at the office that he was eventually blamed for (very long story). He was suspended for three days. I could see he was unsettled with that but he didn't lose his job. He said on the third day of the suspension is when he chose to drink again. He was a few days shy of his 5 months being sober. Needless to say he went to work one morning and his boss noticed his behavior, he failed a breathalyzer and he was fired on the spot.

The very next day he had surgery on his shoulder and was given narcotics (I know right). Since that day he has not done one damn thing to help himself. So I have taken action to protect myself and the girls. I have an update and will share shortly.

Wow, that's just... incredible - the choices he made. To drink on the very last day then go into work drunk. Just W.O.W. Yes, I'd be making plans too.