Ugh, blast from the past
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Yowza. What a putz.
I so enjoy people who have decided they have ESP and then stride around proclaiming their predictions in an exalted voice...because they so special.
I keep visualizing Bullwinkle..."Eenie meanie, chili beanie, the spirits are about to speak!"
#eyeroll
I so enjoy people who have decided they have ESP and then stride around proclaiming their predictions in an exalted voice...because they so special.
I keep visualizing Bullwinkle..."Eenie meanie, chili beanie, the spirits are about to speak!"
#eyeroll
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Originally Posted by Hangnbyathread 
But the fact that it came out of the blue and I was unprepared, it kept me up for 2 days afterwords.
But this was not only "out of the blue," it was also done in a sneaky way, which doubled the "high alert" alarms.
With both him and my ex husband (second husband, who used to call me once a year or so, always drunk), I think it bugs them to no end that I refuse to engage with them.
But you know what? I own the phone. AND the computer. And I can delete and ignore at will.
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Originally Posted by LexieCat
which doubled the "high alert" alarms.
Ticks me off that it can still happen to me after all these years.
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Lexie,
OMG, (I was away all weekend so I missed all of this). I can't believe that he called on purpose. You are an expert and handled it so "professionally". I wish that I had the strength you did and just hung up.... wow!!! Good for you!! Then contacts you later and said that. I guess I am so naive that I had assumed it really was a mistake. You are so smart!! haha!!
So AXH always use to take his pot pipe and hit the side of the car to empty the screen and ashes in the pipe. (there are no ashtrays in cars anymore, not that he would keep the ashes) He would have It is tucked in his hand so no one could see it. He has done it for 30 years. This is just fuel for me to stay away as nothing changes.
OMG, (I was away all weekend so I missed all of this). I can't believe that he called on purpose. You are an expert and handled it so "professionally". I wish that I had the strength you did and just hung up.... wow!!! Good for you!! Then contacts you later and said that. I guess I am so naive that I had assumed it really was a mistake. You are so smart!! haha!!
So AXH always use to take his pot pipe and hit the side of the car to empty the screen and ashes in the pipe. (there are no ashtrays in cars anymore, not that he would keep the ashes) He would have It is tucked in his hand so no one could see it. He has done it for 30 years. This is just fuel for me to stay away as nothing changes.
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LOL, yeah, the more I think about it, the sillier it all becomes. So, for the sake of argument, suppose you have a "very bad feeling" that something "terrible" has happened. And, being something of a chickenshit, you call and pretend you're calling for someone else. The other person doesn't bite, but clearly sounds OK--not wheezing her last breath, not sobbing because a child just died.
Fine. You did what you felt you had to do.
So what is the POINT of then sending an email, admitting that this was all a ruse? Am I supposed to apologize for not talking to him? Be grateful I'm still in his memory bank (and phone book)? Be grateful he "cared" enough to check on me? AFAIK, he has no idea where I actually LIVE. I made it a point never to communicate that to him. If he were determined enough to find out, I'm sure he could.
Don't worry, I have no intention of doing any of those things. If he'd been straight with me, and gracefully accepted that I didn't want to talk with him, I'd have more respect for his good intentions. As it is, it's just more evidence that he hasn't changed for the better.
Fine. You did what you felt you had to do.
So what is the POINT of then sending an email, admitting that this was all a ruse? Am I supposed to apologize for not talking to him? Be grateful I'm still in his memory bank (and phone book)? Be grateful he "cared" enough to check on me? AFAIK, he has no idea where I actually LIVE. I made it a point never to communicate that to him. If he were determined enough to find out, I'm sure he could.
Don't worry, I have no intention of doing any of those things. If he'd been straight with me, and gracefully accepted that I didn't want to talk with him, I'd have more respect for his good intentions. As it is, it's just more evidence that he hasn't changed for the better.
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You always say that you are surprised that he is still alive, well he's still alive!! You wonder what his motive was, as there is always a mission to their madness. You wonder, after how long after no contact?
You handled it just like you preach to the choir!! I'm just dying!!
You handled it just like you preach to the choir!! I'm just dying!!
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Ugh, go in peace. So irritating and I don't even know the backstory!!! Good call on letting it roll off your back....
Not the same thing but reminds me of a note I got from a friend I had heard from out of the blue. It had been years (like 10 or more) since I heard from him. He tells me he googled my name and found my DWI mugshot - tells me I "even take a good mugshot." I was too embarrassed and ashamed to even joke with him about it. I never responded to his email, was just too triggering for me...I do expect he meant well but mentioning that he googled me and found my past record kind of ruined the exchange for me.
Go in peace. That is laugh out loud ridiculous. Keep laughing and don't let it get you down.
Not the same thing but reminds me of a note I got from a friend I had heard from out of the blue. It had been years (like 10 or more) since I heard from him. He tells me he googled my name and found my DWI mugshot - tells me I "even take a good mugshot." I was too embarrassed and ashamed to even joke with him about it. I never responded to his email, was just too triggering for me...I do expect he meant well but mentioning that he googled me and found my past record kind of ruined the exchange for me.
Go in peace. That is laugh out loud ridiculous. Keep laughing and don't let it get you down.
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