Nata1980

And XAH won't stop calling me - even after I told him I had to go and sent him a text that I am in meetings all day and could not talk.

I am sure he had some sort of speech prepared.

Do I pick up?

LexieCat

What for? If you're not talking to him, I wouldn't make an exception for this. If you do talk to him occasionally, then I wouldn't NOT talk to him just because of the date. If you don't feel like listening to a speech, cut him short and tell him you don't want to hear it. If he persists, end the conversation.

The point is, you control what you want to listen to.

Ariesagain

What are the positive possibilities here? Especially if you've already talked to him today?

Is there anything to be gained by rehashing the past? Even if he were making an attempt to make amends and I think he would leave an apology on your voicemail.

Insisting on a dialogue just seems like a control tactic?

Nata1980

I have not talked to him today, and I do talk to him about DS once in a while. True about if he wants to make amends - he could leave a voicemail. I will go with that!

letitend

Maybe let him know that conversations need to revolve around DS? It seems like he is really pushing the limit with trying to start up convo ...

Nata1980

I may have to end up doing that - I miss talking to him very much but talking to him is painful....

AnvilheadII

if your conversations are supposed to be limited to the topic of DS.....there is no other reason for you to pick up or talk to him. he is not your confidante anymore. harassing you with multiple phone calls is a strong indicator he has no respect for your boundaries, and only wants what HE wants...........

Nata1980

He ended up talking to DS for a while. Then he mentioned to me that he went to a wedding that day and the couple were making wows to each other and the bride's teenage son as well, and it "made him sad". He is such a manipulative drama king. I quickly changed the subject to visitation schedule.