Biting My Tongue - Hard
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Biting My Tongue - Hard
Sorry for multiple posts today, but the two ideas are separate.
So, last night AW told me about a friend's brother who was very intelligent but got mixed up in drugs, was in rehab, got out then OD'd. She says, "How can jeep that from happening to DS?" I said, "By doing all we can to raise him the right way, keep God in his life, do our best, and that's all we can do."
I also wanted to say, "By keeping him away from any sort of addiction - which would mean removing you from this house" - but I didn't say that.
Then she says, "You know I'm a control freak and want ro shove him back in my belly where he can be safe and we can protect him." I said, "Being over-protective would only be counterproductive." Wanting to say, "If you are so damn controlling, then control what goes into your body every day." But did not. Biting tongue #2.
Oh, then I find her 20 minutes later passed out on the toilet (yes, you read that correctly) in the downstairs half bath. Pitiful.
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So, last night AW told me about a friend's brother who was very intelligent but got mixed up in drugs, was in rehab, got out then OD'd. She says, "How can jeep that from happening to DS?" I said, "By doing all we can to raise him the right way, keep God in his life, do our best, and that's all we can do."
I also wanted to say, "By keeping him away from any sort of addiction - which would mean removing you from this house" - but I didn't say that.
Then she says, "You know I'm a control freak and want ro shove him back in my belly where he can be safe and we can protect him." I said, "Being over-protective would only be counterproductive." Wanting to say, "If you are so damn controlling, then control what goes into your body every day." But did not. Biting tongue #2.
Oh, then I find her 20 minutes later passed out on the toilet (yes, you read that correctly) in the downstairs half bath. Pitiful.
I love my life.
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Something that took me a while to accept was that when I was having a conversation with the A when I assumed they hadn’t been drinking or at least not a lot………….I was still very much conversing with an alcohol soaked brain.
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Good job, COD. I'm looking forward to the day when you don't have to bite your tongue on a daily basis. Once she's out and the dust has settled, your life will be SOOO much more peaceful.
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Not in her mind, because she hardly drinks at all!!!! Severe d-e-n-i-a-l
No, you didn't miss anything - she is just that far from reality.
No, you didn't miss anything - she is just that far from reality.
Originally Posted by Sandraxia 
Is she suggesting putting her/your son back in her belly to protect him? Wouldn't that just give him alcohol poisoning? Or did I miss something?
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One time my ex made a comment about his brother (also an alcoholic) after staying with him 'You have no idea what it is like being around an alcoholic. It's terrible.' This was after our divorce and his second rehab. I just smiled and didn't say a word - and it was easy enough to do because I was out and had given up on ever getting him and I to see things from the same perspective. It no longer mattered that we didn't.
It's been years and another inpatient treatment (close to two whole years of it) and sobriety and we still have vastly different experiences/memories/ways of processing events. Sometimes it's just that way. It is hard to imagine that we were so close and seemed like such a good fit at one time and to be honest - I think it was me that changed, not him.
It's been years and another inpatient treatment (close to two whole years of it) and sobriety and we still have vastly different experiences/memories/ways of processing events. Sometimes it's just that way. It is hard to imagine that we were so close and seemed like such a good fit at one time and to be honest - I think it was me that changed, not him.
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That's like when my AH was telling me a story about a guy at work who told him a huge saga about how he needed time off because of a sick family member but then it was discovered to be all a lie. He said to me "I just cannot believe this guy could lie to my face like that!" To which I responded "Yeah, pretty unbelievable that people are able to do that, huh? Sucks to be on the receiving end, doesn't it? Imagine if your partner did that to you consistently!!" To which he huffed and walked off.
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Ugg - my ex used to complain about how annoying super drunk people were around him. How annoying his pot smoking friend was. How ridiculous it was that his friend had to be high all the time.
At least the irony is not lost on us I suppose.
At least the irony is not lost on us I suppose.
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She also made the comment: "Can't people see what they are doing to their bodies and just walk away?" Yeah, really. That was tongue bite #3. No wonder it's hard to eat today...
She's an ACoA, and she said to me once, "I don't want DS growing up with addiction like I did." Umm, he already is??? Previous tongue bite!
She's an ACoA, and she said to me once, "I don't want DS growing up with addiction like I did." Umm, he already is??? Previous tongue bite!
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Originally Posted by Thumper
I think it was me that changed, not him.
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passed out on the toilet (yes, you read that correctly) in the downstairs half bath
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Originally Posted by firebolt
Ugg - my ex used to complain about how annoying super drunk people were around him. How annoying his pot smoking friend was. How ridiculous it was that his friend had to be high all the time.
At least the irony is not lost on us I suppose.
At least the irony is not lost on us I suppose.
Hilarious!
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Originally Posted by CentralOhioDad
She also made the comment: "Can't people see what they are doing to their bodies and just walk away?" Yeah, really. That was tongue bite #3. No wonder it's hard to eat today...
She's an ACoA, and she said to me once, "I don't want DS growing up with addiction like I did." Umm, he already is??? Previous tongue bite!
She's an ACoA, and she said to me once, "I don't want DS growing up with addiction like I did." Umm, he already is??? Previous tongue bite!
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I'm unsure why you bit your tongue.
Maybe you should have taken a picture, printed it out and stuck it on the door of the bathroom. "Setting a good example"!!!!
I know, she most likely would have deny deny deny. She's stressed and all.
Maybe you should have taken a picture, printed it out and stuck it on the door of the bathroom. "Setting a good example"!!!!
I know, she most likely would have deny deny deny. She's stressed and all.
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