AA meeting and supervised visitation.
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BB - his mom could look after him, since she supervises the visit anyway, but it would be up to XAH to arrange, not for me to offer as a solution
There is most certainly a meeting and he talks to his sponsor (I know him from the time we lived in the area). He shared that emphasis is on growing up (duh) and he made responsible arrangements during this past weekend - where he went to a different meeting in the evening after I got back.....I can most certainly see improvement. I am not getting my hopes up though....
There is most certainly a meeting and he talks to his sponsor (I know him from the time we lived in the area). He shared that emphasis is on growing up (duh) and he made responsible arrangements during this past weekend - where he went to a different meeting in the evening after I got back.....I can most certainly see improvement. I am not getting my hopes up though....
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the reason where we are is that you managed to lower my expectations to a point of no return. He is still early in his recovery lol.
XAH is overdoing it a little bit with attempts to Skype/call me today....left a message, talking about him going through pictures and old cards in a basement (eye roll).
I feel the same way about the expectations. He lowered them to the point where I can never expect anything - zero, nada, no long term planning. I can ask him to do things here and there as long as he is sober but since I never know when the next relapse will come. I can't rely on him for anything that would involve consistency. This is why I am hiring babysitters for my son even though he has the time to do things that I am hiring sitters for. My AH is also calling me and coming over a lot and it's hard on me; wish and hope I can get to the point where he is in the "great ex husband" category. It's hard! You sound like you have the right attitude!!
XAH is overdoing it a little bit with attempts to Skype/call me today....left a message, talking about him going through pictures and old cards in a basement (eye roll).
I feel the same way about the expectations. He lowered them to the point where I can never expect anything - zero, nada, no long term planning. I can ask him to do things here and there as long as he is sober but since I never know when the next relapse will come. I can't rely on him for anything that would involve consistency. This is why I am hiring babysitters for my son even though he has the time to do things that I am hiring sitters for. My AH is also calling me and coming over a lot and it's hard on me; wish and hope I can get to the point where he is in the "great ex husband" category. It's hard! You sound like you have the right attitude!!
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Good Lord just casually reading through posts such as in this thread makes you shake your head we're talking about grown @$$ men and how they are the ones needing supervision and their Mommies still just to "do life". SMH.
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Yup. What helped me be less angry about this situation is that I would never want to be him, in his situation. I don't envy him one bit - what a nightmare. The most amusing part is that I am 13 years his junior. So glad to let go of a role of "tough mother".
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