STBXAH asked for my engagement ring back
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Although things may have changed, back in the day, what I learned about this was...............the ONLY time an engagement ring is returned is........................: 1) during the engagement (not after the wedding); and 2) only necessary (sic) if the girl (the ring-wearer) calls off the engagement.
Therefore.........keep the ring; sell the ring; flush it down the commode; throw it in the ocean.............do with it what you will; it's yours!
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Therefore.........keep the ring; sell the ring; flush it down the commode; throw it in the ocean.............do with it what you will; it's yours!
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I hope you did not give it to him. If he brings it up again you can end that very quickly by saying "Sure let me list out what you owe me for wasting my time, causing me grievous hardship, and emotional distress over your alcoholism. You reimburse me, and I will give you the ring. Otherwise, don't ask again"
I really would say that.
Legally he has no rights to the the ring, it is yours. And you did earn it. I wouldn't start the divorce by setting a precedent of giving him back things that aren't owed to him.
I really would say that.
Legally he has no rights to the the ring, it is yours. And you did earn it. I wouldn't start the divorce by setting a precedent of giving him back things that aren't owed to him.
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On one hand, I definitely don't want the ring and will not make it into something else.
On the other hand, I think it's completely ludicrous that he even asked for it back, especially since he is trying to add something else to the divorce paperwork that is equally as stupid. He is asking for two things of significant value that benefit him 100% and benefit me 0%. So, he may be hoping I will give him the ring in order to have him drop this other item.
Whether he gives it to this new woman, I don't really care. For the most part, I am able to view this divorce as a business transaction, so I will treat the ring topic as such. If he will not compensate me for the return of the ring, I will sell it. Easy as that.
I'm just surprised that he can still say things that surprise me. I thought I'd heard it all.
On the other hand, I think it's completely ludicrous that he even asked for it back, especially since he is trying to add something else to the divorce paperwork that is equally as stupid. He is asking for two things of significant value that benefit him 100% and benefit me 0%. So, he may be hoping I will give him the ring in order to have him drop this other item.
Whether he gives it to this new woman, I don't really care. For the most part, I am able to view this divorce as a business transaction, so I will treat the ring topic as such. If he will not compensate me for the return of the ring, I will sell it. Easy as that.
I'm just surprised that he can still say things that surprise me. I thought I'd heard it all.
Every single time I think I have heard it all from my X husband, he cranks out another one that I just cannot believe.
One day, our kids will be grown and I will have no reason to communicate with him at all. I cannot wait!
One day, our kids will be grown and I will have no reason to communicate with him at all. I cannot wait!
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