DesertEyes

I have book recommendations spread all over the forum. Which makes it impossible for peeps to find _any_ one book recommendation at all. So I am starting a "Book sticky"

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...d-members.html

If you all would help me out and just post recommendations for books on this thread I will build up the sticky.

thanks

Mike
Moderator, SR

HoldOnLoosely

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I'm only halfway through the book, but so far it's excellent...especially the second and third agreements (don't take anything personally and don't make assumptions).

fripfrop

When Love Is a Lie: Narcissistic Partners & the Pathological Relationship Agenda
Zari Ballard

Breaking The Chains Of A Psycopath And A Sociopath: Learning How to Live Again
Ken Fisher

30 Covert Emotional Manipulation Tactics: How Manipulators Take Control In Personal Relationships
Adelyn Birch

Dark Souls - Healing and Recovering from Toxic Relationships
Sarah Strudwick

These are the ones I bought from Amazon. The one by Adelyn Birch, is an eye opener especially

firebolt

not a book - but these free podcasts are amazing:
CNM 001: Introduction | Our Story of Codependency Recovery - Codependency No More

Then Conquering Codependency and Shame by Diane Lancer changed my life.

One of the podcasts is an interview with her - and then I bought the book.

AMAZING!

theuncertainty

• Under the Influence: A Guide to the Myths and Realities of Alcoholism by James Robert Milam and Katherine Ketcham
• Letting Go with Love by Julia H.

For Kids:

• The Brown Bottle by Penny Jones
• An Elephant in the Living Room - The Children's Book by Jill Hastings

About abusive partners:

• Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
• But He'll Change: End the Thinking That Keeps You in an Abusive Relationship by Joanna V Hunter

greeteachday

Thank you for including recommendations for children, Uncertainty. We see so many posts asking about how to help kids impacted , so that's so helpful!

Anna

Thanks Mike so much for starting this thread.

I hope you don't mind if I add these titles that Mike will be using for your Sticky to our Book List in Newcomers. We have a section for Codependency and I'm thrilled to add more titles. Please take a look if you like, and keep giving me new titles to add.

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ependence.html

DesertEyes

Way kewl, the more the better

Mike

LexieCat

Alcoholics Anonymous (AKA "The Big Book")

Al-Anon literature: How Al-Anon Works, Paths to Recovery, Courage to Change, One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

One Breath at a Time by Kevin Griffin. This is aimed at alcoholics, but it can be very helpful to anyone in recovery who is challenged by the "God thing"--the author is a practicing Buddhist and an atheist (Buddhism is an a-theistic religion--no god (at least none universally recognized)). This shows how the Steps are relevant and can be practiced even if you don't believe in a supreme being.

Anna

Thanks, Mike. This is a great idea!

Any books you put on the Sticky here, I will also add to the Newcomers book list.

SoloMio

Women Who Love too Much by Robin Norwood
The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls
Breathing Under Water by Richard Rohr
Loving What Is by Byron Katie

Anna

Thanks everyone! I have added all the titles mentioned here, so far. There is a separate section for Biographies, so The Glass Castle is listed there, rather than in Codependency. I hope you continue to offer suggestions.

FeelingGreat

'When I Say No I Feel Guilty' by Dr Manuel Smith

Bekindalways

Great thread all:

I'm always suggesting a book on grief. So far, I haven't found anyone who has read it but it was one of the planks in my survival raft when I left my qualifier.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love. It was written by several people in the 60s or 70s but is pretty timeless.

LoveMeNow

Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You!

Written by: Susan J. Elliott

FireSprite

The Shack - William Paul Young

Perfect Daughters - Robert Ackerman (for adult daughters of alcoholics)

The Fifth Agreement - (to compliment the first book) - Don Miguel Ruiz

Who Moved My Cheese - Spencer Johnson (great parable on dealing with change)

Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom - Christiane Northrup MD (the best book for women's health, crucial for me because my recovery involved so much rebuilding of my overall health.)

The Tao of Pooh - Benjamin Hoff

Brene Brown's entire body of work - not recovery specific, but incredibly helpful for wholehearted living & addresses a lot of codependent behaviors like perfectionism, etc.
The Gifts of Imperfection
I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't)
The Power of Vulnerability (audio CD/lecture)
Daring Greatly
Rising Strong

Spacegoat

'Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving' by Pete Walker

One that I would like to read despite having absorbed much of the same or similar information and knowledge from various sources.

chloe210

I found this book incredibly helpful

"Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self" by Charles L. Whitfield

Ann

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie is one book I read over and over again.

Also, by the same author, Language of Letting Go, a book of daily readings that kept me going for many years.

Thanks for doing this, Mike.

PurpleWilder

In the Meantime - Iyanla VanZant
Just for Today (daily reader) - Iyanla VanZant