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here's the thing about going NO CONTACT....that means WE go no contact....we do not RELY upon the other party to do all the work, respect our wishes and leave us alone. we erect the barriers and we no long ACCEPT or INITIATE any further contact.
otherwise its like asking the drug dealer to help us stay sober.....
otherwise its like asking the drug dealer to help us stay sober.....
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII 
here's the thing about going NO CONTACT....that means WE go no contact....we do not RELY upon the other party to do all the work, respect our wishes and leave us alone. we erect the barriers and we no long ACCEPT or INITIATE any further contact.
otherwise its like asking the drug dealer to help us stay sober.....
otherwise its like asking the drug dealer to help us stay sober.....
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Originally Posted by dandylion
pndm.....the big hole in your "theory"----you, then , would be behaving just like an alcoholic.
Would you really want to live like that?
I know you were just kidding......
da ndylion
Would you really want to live like that?
I know you were just kidding......
da ndylion
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You don´t need to send him any message telling you´re NC, not replying to his messages is much more convincing.
Really, while you´re busy telling him you´re NC, he´s thinking "No you´re not, you´re still talking to me".
Nothing gives a clearer message than just doing it.
Really, while you´re busy telling him you´re NC, he´s thinking "No you´re not, you´re still talking to me".
Nothing gives a clearer message than just doing it.
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Thank you guys
I didn't realize that my text/computer app hadn't blocked him when I blocked him on my phone... He texted some inside joke that we had and said he couldn't resist... I didn't reply. I am not going to reply... I also went to a new alanon meeting today
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
your phone has a DELETE key right????
blast it to smithereens.
you must expect to continue to get forms of contact from him.....treat them ALL like a telemarketer or spammer......
blast it to smithereens.
you must expect to continue to get forms of contact from him.....treat them ALL like a telemarketer or spammer......
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
EXCELLENT! we have to make sure OUR actions are thorough and complete!
it will get easier.....if you remain consistent.
it will get easier.....if you remain consistent.
Also I have stopped drinking ( I am a normie ) but for now with these heightened emotions I don't want even one cocktail... I feel amazing ... I have had 4 drinks (total) in the month we have been broken up...awesome!!!
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